The best way to take off a band-aid- just rip it right off!
Posted: Sat Jul 30, 2011 11:38 am
Hello all and I hope that I find support through here as well as the program. I am starting tomorrow. I have started the book and am reading what it says to do but it is so scary to keep thinking, "But is it going to work?" Just some backround that hopefully someone out there can relate to..
I am 30 years old, wife, mommy (of a VERY high energy 2 year old boy), and with a high stress full time job. This past year has been spent trying to recover emotionally with my husband after he had an affair with my friend/neighbor (whom she is also married and has a child AND STILL LIVES ACROSS THE STREET). Before all this I had problems with trust, depression, anxiety, OCD. The raw emotions after learning of the affair sent my mind into a whirlwind and has made a LOT come to the surface that I had really pushed deep down. I have issues with female friends and trust because often my friends will hurt me (example of the nighbor who used our female bond against me and went and turned things I said around to cause problems with my husband and I). Besides having the woman from fatal attraction almost ruin my life my job has been AWFUL!
So I am trying to stand up to myself and take a stand for me. After I found out about the affair I had a huge Phoenix tattooed on my back. Because I, like the phoenix, will rise again out of the ashes and prevail! I have a great therapist who I go to as well as my husband and I together. My husband and paretns are also super supportive of me trying to sort through all my anxieties. A lot of it is because I could not stand up for my self I created some of this. Now I am fighting back! I hope with this I can change myself for me and for my son so he can really look up to his mother. I also hope that maybe someone out there reading this can relate. Yes, we all can relate to the anxiety and depression but adding an affair and the fact that I have to live across the street from someone that has hurt me so much and played my fears and emotions even more is an awful awful feeling. SO here is to the strong people put there and to all the support we can try and give each other!
Good Luck!
I am 30 years old, wife, mommy (of a VERY high energy 2 year old boy), and with a high stress full time job. This past year has been spent trying to recover emotionally with my husband after he had an affair with my friend/neighbor (whom she is also married and has a child AND STILL LIVES ACROSS THE STREET). Before all this I had problems with trust, depression, anxiety, OCD. The raw emotions after learning of the affair sent my mind into a whirlwind and has made a LOT come to the surface that I had really pushed deep down. I have issues with female friends and trust because often my friends will hurt me (example of the nighbor who used our female bond against me and went and turned things I said around to cause problems with my husband and I). Besides having the woman from fatal attraction almost ruin my life my job has been AWFUL!
So I am trying to stand up to myself and take a stand for me. After I found out about the affair I had a huge Phoenix tattooed on my back. Because I, like the phoenix, will rise again out of the ashes and prevail! I have a great therapist who I go to as well as my husband and I together. My husband and paretns are also super supportive of me trying to sort through all my anxieties. A lot of it is because I could not stand up for my self I created some of this. Now I am fighting back! I hope with this I can change myself for me and for my son so he can really look up to his mother. I also hope that maybe someone out there reading this can relate. Yes, we all can relate to the anxiety and depression but adding an affair and the fact that I have to live across the street from someone that has hurt me so much and played my fears and emotions even more is an awful awful feeling. SO here is to the strong people put there and to all the support we can try and give each other!
Good Luck!