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For years I have been in an unhappy relationship with my daughters father, we are NOT married. I have a ring on my finger but it hasn't happened. We live together in a house, in my name. I can't afford the house on my own. I know how I am and if it came down to it I could deal with foreclosure. I am mostly worried about custody issues.

But here is the thing I go on and on and on about how much I don't like things he does. I negatively obsess about him and how I am so done with his and his antics but I do NOTHING. Year after year. Honestly I don't think he likes me and I don't feel like I like him (let alone LOVE) BUT here we sit... with one another. MISERABLE. We always talk about trying but it just feels like a prison sentence!! And I know; this is not how I want to live for my daughter but I don't know what to do? I feel like I am stuck with his guy. And obviously he feels the same way about me??

Why do I negatively obsess about this and do nothing? I started on prozac for a few weeks but felt horrible about being on it. Though it made life with HIM more tolerable!! So maybe its just me and my anxiety?

Does anyone have a magic wand?

I don't think that either one of you are stck with the other it just sounds like you are both unhappy but neither one of you is willing to make the first move. Maybe he wants you to make the first move and end it. After reading your post it seems like deep down in your heart you know what you want to do but haven't reached the point of being able to do it yet. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.