On being sensitive...

designkid · Post by **designkid** » Sun May 10, 2009 9:06 am

I'm wondering for those who have gone through the program, I imagine you are a lot less sensitive than when you started, but would you still consider yourself a "sensitive personality"?

I'm definitely a sensitive person. I'm not sure if part of this will always be part of my core personality though and I can change somewhat but expecting to not be "sensitive" to things anymore is just being unrealistic.

Any experiences or thoughts on this?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun May 10, 2009 11:43 am

I have only been on the program for 3 weeks so im not a pro, but i have realized that i dont need to take evrything so seriously. I used to role play in my mind about conversations that would take place and try to predict what the other persons response would be. Now im starting to say "it is was it is" and I am not responsible for thier thoughts or worries. I hope this helps.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Sun May 10, 2009 11:48 am

I too am very sensitive, but especially at my time of the month. I got into a heated discussion on another message board and spoke my mind and got a notification that a person responded, and I don't even want to go back to look at their response, because I don't want it to ruin my Mother's Day, ha ha ha.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed May 13, 2009 6:50 am

There is actually a fascinating book and website devoted to Highly Sensitive People. Take the test! Follow this link to an online test that will tell you on the spot: http://www.hsperson.com/pages/test.htm

I used to be embarrassed about my sensitivity and sometimes I still feel like I'm "overly emotional" but you know what? It's NOT a bad thing!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Fri May 15, 2009 1:50 am

I do think "I still care what others think about me"....I do have to say that I do NOT take things sooo personal anymore. I, also, have to say that I care more about what God thinks, than, what anyone else thinks...This is whom I am out to please...

I do not feel like I am a "people pleaser" anymore. I do love people, and I enjoy doing things for them, since, it makes me feel warm on the inside!!!!

I just don't feel the need to try and please them. I am not saying that I like hurting others either, because I don't...I am saying that I can say no, and not feel an ounce of guilt...

I used to feel guilty about everything. I beat my self up daily. I just choose not to do this to my self, anymore. Where does it get me? Absolutely nowhere, and I would be only trying to punish myself, if, I chose to live my life that way!!!! Haven't we all been through enough torture already???

Somehow, I felt in my past, if I beat myself up enough, it would help somehow. Beating yourself up is not the answer. We all make mistakes...We learn from them...We ask God to forgive us, and know that He will, then, we move on....

Guilt trip...I will NOT buy that ticket...

Remember...feeling guilty is NOT the answer!!!!
You have a right to be happy, as well as, the next person.

You can also be "assertive" without being "aggressive"....Just allow your needs to be met for once in your life...You deserve it!!! God Bless