Stress Center Peer Support

I haven't been on here for a very long time...a couple of years really, or almost. I consider myself mostly recovered. But I still have strong emotions, and still have trouble, like tonight. I came to look at the chatroom, but I see that they've taken it down. My husband and I have been looking for a new house for a little over a year. In no rush to move, we were waiting for the "right" house. Dare I say, the "perfect" house? We hadn't seen anything since October maybe, and a good one came up yesterday, that we saw today. And put an offer on it tonight, and I can't stop crying. It happened so quickly, you see a house, and less than 7 hours later you have put in an offer. Geez, I think about buying a camera for at least 2 weeks before making a purchase! It wasn't perfect, but we thought we could live with it. Maybe we settled, but maybe it was time to settle. I may have talked my husband into it a little, because I felt like I could live there, and it is a nice house, but with a couple drawbacks that I am worried are going to be big nuisances for us...that we are trying to get away from. But it is so hard to know...I mean, you can't live there for a week and see if you like it. I felt from when I saw the photos and the info, that we were going to put an offer on it. But now I am second guessing myself all over the place. Maybe I talked myself into it just because I had that feeling. What if it is the wrong house? And I didn't wait for the right one? It may be a mistake, and buying the wrong house is a whopper. I just can't sleep, and keep crying. It is a very big decision and maybe I'm just overwhelmed. I do cry a lot when I get overwhelmed. And am i overwhelmed because it is a big deal and I am so so tired, or am I overwhelmed because I just made the wrong decision???

Oh, yes, dealings with a house can be mighty stressful. Don't know how I survived that a number of times. What you are feeling happens often enough. But to the extent you describe, it should not. If you are that upset, my guess is the house is probably not for you.

An offer to buy is not a purchase. There are ways to get out. If you have a good real estate agent he/she will help you. It is a buyer's market now so you need not rush into any purchase. Look at a house a number of times. Write out pros and cons. Are the cons correctible? Are they only cosmetic or structural?

There will be stress, but the anticipation of satisfaction surely ought to outweigh the stress. Hope this helps a little.

I tend to agree with Tina. Perhaps this isn't the right house for you and that is why you are having second thoughts. Perhaps it would be better to try and rescind your offer and wait for something else to come along. Buying and selling a house is a stressful time but why put yourself through more than is necessary? If it was the right house you would know it although it still would be stressful. Good luck.