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So i've been "wanting" and job for a while now. I think that it's crusial (sp) to my recovery. I'm a stay at home mom and have been for a year and half now. But I feel like I need to do something during the day. I mean yes I clean and cook and play with my son. But I need adult conversation and to go to bed feeling fulfilled. I love my son and husband. But it's such a routine. I really don't have a lot of friends and the ones I do have, have jobs or go to school. So I never get to see them. And it's a night and weekend job so i'll still get to spend time with my son during the day. I just feel like my husband goes to work and he has a life. And my son starts school in Aug. So he'll have a life. And i'm just going to be stuck in this house with the same routine. But here's my problem. I'm really nervous about getting a job. I'm scared i'm going to feel trapped. Or i'm going to throw up. I was just called for my interview and was asked to come up there today. I'm really nervous. I'm trying to be positive and i'm not as nervous as I usually would be. But still. As i'm typing this my leg is shaking. And can't stop the "what if, what if what if".

First, ask youself this question, "Do I want a job because I really need the money?" If the answer is NO, then why not chuck the idea of a paid job and take up volunteering. When I retired, I thought I would go nuts with nothing to do, however I didn't need a job for money so I volunteered with several groups. That way, I could set my own hours, I could leave if I got anxious, there were no untold expectations I had to live up to (which can stress you out).

Also, the neat thing is that the organizations appreciated me and my time so very much. I got a great feeling out of it as well.

I just started with one organization and found that I loved it so much I added a second and then a third. I found three was too much, so I simply cut back to two... no pressure on me at all.

However, if you need a job for the money, then that's a different story. If you can't get through the interview perhaps you shouldn't be taking a job.

Whatever route you choose, I wish you the best of luck!

thanks, but I did go for the job interview and now i'm really excited about it! I was a little nervous when I first got there and a little shaky, but once she started talking to me I was fine. I calmed down and wasn't focusing on my fears. I really hope I get the job!

Thats great you did it despite your anxiety and you got through it. You realized that the anxiety didn't last forever and it dissipated quite quickly by the sounds of it. You might have had alot of anticipatory anxiety but the anxiety of the actual event was like a spike and thats it. I bet you feel really empowered right about now and you know what, it doesn't matter if you got the job or not because you faced your anxiety and limitation and you kicked the crap out of it If you don't get this job, you will definately get the next job or even the next job because you will be more confident in your ability to handle anxiety itself.

There is a very well known psychologist named Dr.David D Burns and he says facing anxiety for someone with an anxiety problem is like a non-sufferer lying on a set of railroad tracks and not getting up when he/she hears the train coming. So yes this is very huge, congrats.


Mike

Congratulations, I am so happy you did what you did. That is great. Good for you!