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I have been noticing a whole lot of Anger in the threads lately. That's okay it just means you are working it all out and dealing with your stuff

Here are some things to remember when trying to Control your Anger (yes you control your anger)
1.Think before you react.
2. Count to ten or delay 24 hours.
3. It's your perfect right, but how much will this cost?
4. Use "I" messages and a calm voice.
5. Begin with a positive. Listen! End on a positive note.
6. Be assertive, Not aggressive.
7. Mental self-abuse is the Highway to Depression.
Remember Anger is a human emotion
Anger can be damaging in many ways
Anger is very costly, use it wisely.
Anger has Themes. Be Watchful-what is the Need?
Anger Hides fear. Deal with the fear.
Angry people lose Respect.
Anger can be new, old, or directed at the self.
RESOLVE, DISSOLVE, AND LET GO!

Expectations~
Attitude is Everything
Depression is Treatable
I will not "should" on myself today.
I am capable of setting realistic goals.
I can Stop taking myself So Seriously.
Unrealistic expectations cause stress.
Unreasonable "shoulds" bring frustration.
My Best IS good enough.
I am worth standing up for.
I am No Longer a Victim Thinker!
Dealing with expectations:
Would I ask this of anyone else?
Is this really My responsibility?
Am I over reacting?
How can I be more effective and less affected?
Am I trying to be Perfect?
Who am I trying to impress?
Is this My goal?
Do I really have to control this?

These are taken from weeks 4 and 6 from the Carry along cards from the program. I hope this helps some who don't Yet have the program.
Take care and blessings

Lincoln say's count to 100

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SnS
I am diggin the 100 idea. I have been known to have a super super bad temper (Latina) and I have gotten so much better. I just leave the room and tell hubby that I am not talking anymore , that I have to cool off and we will resume the "talk" at a later time when I feel rational again. That if he pushes me things will be said in anger and haste and it wont be pretty . So he usually says "cool then" and it's dropped.It's taken alot of work but it's worth it. I am much nicer to be around

oh and um..interesting pic of ol Abe you got there :p

The thought occurred to me. "how do you acheive these?" for me it's constant practice practice practice. And I don't mean to sound to corny or over simplify things but I ask God to help me see things thru heavenly eyes and not my jaded cynical ones haha.Been praying the Serenity Prayer more and remembering the Great quote I learned on here by a member
"expectations are just pre-meditated resentments" so I am trying to lower my expectations. That sure is hard too when we tend to be so perfectionistic...argh!!
And I also yell "SERENITY NOW" alot haha.
Anyone else have some suggestions , please share

lol....serenity now. I love seinfeld.

Miss O
Happy to get a laugh outta you. I love Jerry Stiller..he is so funny. I should try to find a clip of "Serenity Now"

I'm on the expectations part of the program it seems really hard to take break and calm down and not overdo stuff.

hi lost girl....i was roaming around this site because i just can't sleep and i saw your post. i guess you have not calmed down, i'm sorry, are you doing okay?

Hi Girl
It's practice practice practice...and it's hard but it's worth it when things start getting better. Right when you least expect it.
Hang in there

J~