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Okay I have had this program for about two months now, but I haven't used it as much as I should. I keep telling myself that it won't work because I don't have normal anxiety.
About my anxiety,
I have a HUGE fear of dying. I'm only sixteen years old and Ive been afraid of dying since I was thirteen. Three years afraid of dying is really wearing me down. I cant go to school, I am homeschooled because of my fear of dying in public or passing out. And as you can see the symptoms of anxiety doesnt make my fear feel any better. Now normal body symptoms like gassing out freaks me out because I feel like I'm passing out. I can't handle feeling this way anymore I want to live my life again, so please if someone feels the same way as me, please help!!

Sorry to hear about this Mykala
Just remember that it is just a fear that is only a thought and is not necessarily REAL! I think alot of people fear death including myself because it ARE fine! You will not pass out or faint or die! This is JUST a untrue thought in your mind! The body symptoms is just the result of the anxiety! I truly believe that you will be better shortly with the right thinking and this program! Continue working through it and it will get better and in no time you will be back to your old self once again!

Hi MykalaJordon,
Congradulations on your awareness of death. You are correct that none of us are leaving this world alive.
The important part is that while we are alive, we are to live life, love and learn and be productive to mankind.

Make tomorrow a new day and live it.

Hey,

Listen if you leave this earth you will never know it,it may not take your fear away,but obsessing over something that has not even happened that's the area you need help in.The "what if" stage.I listen to little parts of the radio in my car every day and hear all of the people leaving this earth,maybe that's what you need to be desensitized to it.I'm sure many people have said,"Well your only 16,what do you have to fear",but to you it's real and in your face all of the time and wasting brain matter.Stages of grief - Denial, Anger, Depression, Bargaining, Acceptance.Think they added 2 more,but in life almost everything comes down to these points,you need to get to the last one and let the rest ride.Not sure how you are going to do it? Are mind tells use many things all of the time,thoughts sensory inputs/outputs,room temp,cold,hot,hunger,thirst,light and many more things it's like a massive computer at work.All of your hardware is fine,work on the software.Hope you find a way to re-program !!!((((Acceptance))))))I'm going to die sometime,not sure of the time, date, age, or place,and frankly if you,I hope, reach the point of just not to care about the things you can't control that would be Acceptance.

Best to you

Hi Mykayla-

You remind me of myself. I am now 46 years old, and from what I have learned, I didn't talk to people enough and open up and tell them I was afraid, my folks were not compassionate and caring and mostly I just quit on myself.

I would keep on working with the program. It may not address specifically your issues, but you will grow in your skills and learn to be able to shut down the anxiety at will and learn how to keep yourself from listening to false statements that your brain makes.

Passing gas, etc. is a normal body function and normal things do not make you pass out or die.

I am a Christian and learning about the fact that when I die, I will go to heaven with Jesus has really helped me out with the fear of death. Not that it isn't still an unknown, but now I don't have to try to control it and my body. God is in charge and I bow to His wishes.

Blessings to you.

Jordan, I felt the same as you for about 23 years now. My father passed away when I was 25 and I'm a little over 50 now. Look at all the time I've wasted worrying about something that may or may not happen. You are young, probably in good health and are a bright kid to even ask for help. Hang in there. Breathe and count in your mind when you get anxious. Let time pass. True, your days are numbered, but so are everybody else's. Live for today and have Faith. It's all anyone can do.

1 Corinthians 13

If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

Have been the same way most of my life, and I am a senior citizen! Now it is not my own death I fear, because I know what comes after is so beautiful; but am in constant anxietey over the vacuum that is left every time someone else dies! The older I get, the more anxiety I fight that someone close to me, especially one of my children or grandchildren, or my husband will be taken away. I work the program (third time through) every day and am a devout Mormon (CHRISTIAN!), but the physical feeling and heart-pounding will not go away; my sleeping and anti-anxiety medications aren't working very well...Jesus Christ and God the Father are on my mind continually and I pray for more trust in them...but the terror I feel when someone from church dies or a public figure or a friend of a friend--it's just too much. How will I handle real grief? Sometimes I wish I would just go crazy now and get it overwith. I keep repeating to myself, "live, love, laugh," and I force myself to smile because I don't want to waste a precious moment, but my bodily feelings won't go away. Thank God today is Sunday, and I will hopefully go to church and draw strength from so many strong spirits there...

Just to clarify: is love reserved for some, but not for others?