Posted: Thu Dec 16, 2010 12:14 pm
First let me say I have a call in to my Psychologist.
2nd- honestly up until 440pm this has been my best day in 5 years. Didn't need anything and at this moment (6pm) I am still ativan free. So far.
Backstory: 8 year old boy and 13 year old girl. 10 years marriage. He is not my daughter's biological father but adopted her when we got married.
I was a stay at home mom until August. Husband lost 110+k/year job in July. Now total income 50k/year with my job and his unemployment (maybe stress his contributing factor)
Never a happy marriage. Gets better then worse but never good.
Start:
My husband got in an argument at around 440pm. Really just me defending myself and really not the issue here. Details: He was putting me down and I just decided to tell him to stop. That he isn't any better. It got pretty heated and he went somewhere and I could hear him hit the wall or something.
Problem: My son comes up and hugs me and comforts me. Then proceeds to tell me how mean dad is to him in the mornings. My daughter chimes in and they both tell me how scared they are of him in the morning.
This morning he took a belt and was flinging it around and threatening my son with it and hitting it on furniture. I guess he yells and screams profanity at them every morning before taking them to school. My son and him are like oil and water. Actually both are just alike and that's why they fight.
I am soooooo stressed about this. I feel like if he doesn't change I have to divorce him. He has always been kind of a jerk but wow- this is another level. My kids are scared of him. Thank goodness tomorrow I take the kids to school and then I am off work until after the new year.
What do I do? Is this something that can be fixed? I know he has to want to fix it? I am sitting here wanting an ativan but wanting to do it on my own? With something this terrible is it possible for me to lose my mind? Because if I lose my mind then while I am in the hospital getting fixed the kids will be with him the whole time. That doesn't solve anything. HELP ME!!!!! PLEASE!!!! Should I take the ativan or finally deal with something without clouding it and running away from it? Can I mentally do it??????? Help.
Why can't the chat line be up or why can't my therapist call back. UGH!!! Pray!!!
2nd- honestly up until 440pm this has been my best day in 5 years. Didn't need anything and at this moment (6pm) I am still ativan free. So far.
Backstory: 8 year old boy and 13 year old girl. 10 years marriage. He is not my daughter's biological father but adopted her when we got married.
I was a stay at home mom until August. Husband lost 110+k/year job in July. Now total income 50k/year with my job and his unemployment (maybe stress his contributing factor)
Never a happy marriage. Gets better then worse but never good.
Start:
My husband got in an argument at around 440pm. Really just me defending myself and really not the issue here. Details: He was putting me down and I just decided to tell him to stop. That he isn't any better. It got pretty heated and he went somewhere and I could hear him hit the wall or something.
Problem: My son comes up and hugs me and comforts me. Then proceeds to tell me how mean dad is to him in the mornings. My daughter chimes in and they both tell me how scared they are of him in the morning.
This morning he took a belt and was flinging it around and threatening my son with it and hitting it on furniture. I guess he yells and screams profanity at them every morning before taking them to school. My son and him are like oil and water. Actually both are just alike and that's why they fight.
I am soooooo stressed about this. I feel like if he doesn't change I have to divorce him. He has always been kind of a jerk but wow- this is another level. My kids are scared of him. Thank goodness tomorrow I take the kids to school and then I am off work until after the new year.
What do I do? Is this something that can be fixed? I know he has to want to fix it? I am sitting here wanting an ativan but wanting to do it on my own? With something this terrible is it possible for me to lose my mind? Because if I lose my mind then while I am in the hospital getting fixed the kids will be with him the whole time. That doesn't solve anything. HELP ME!!!!! PLEASE!!!! Should I take the ativan or finally deal with something without clouding it and running away from it? Can I mentally do it??????? Help.
Why can't the chat line be up or why can't my therapist call back. UGH!!! Pray!!!
My husband took my son to basketball practice - so I can't even discuss this with him to see if he is willing to admit it or even to change for another hour.