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Well, I just wanted to put my problem infront of you guys may be someone might help me what i am going through.
They say 80% guys suffer from Anxiety & Depression, maybe yes. But finding it difficult to share your thoughts, dont know when you are out with friends what to talk, how to enjoy your time, and if someone keeps talking to you than its ok, you keep on talking on and on, but difficult for yourself to do it. what is that? and why it is so because, anyone have any idea? I'll be very thankful

I hope someone answers this as I wasn't sure if you were directing it at "men" or not.

Smpk, Hi.
I dare say that if I were to talk about your interests, "you do have some!" or work that you like, you would be more comfortable disscussing in length. Maybe even chuckle or two. To me it is more about the circumstance when I engage. Most times I listen and mind my own bussiness. Some may say thats stuck up or something. I call it observing. To much of the time others are blabbering it is in reality a type of gossip.
Is there other factors that make you uncomfortable? Some also play the clicks or groupee stuff, that is not me so I am often watching instead of entertaining.

I side with you and would not worry much about it.
If you act like a recluse at the shop christmas party then maybe there is more to it.

Hope you will share more and thanks for sharing what you did.

is this aimed just at "men"? I just wanted to say that even if it is..I have this difficulty as well.

Hi Molly, I see no reason why it would not or could affect some females the same or in similar ways.
There can be many reasons. not feeling comfortable or tired, embarrassment, nervous, angry, hungry and so on.

@Whatif
You've found it right, Thats exactly what happens. I often find myself recluse at parties or functions or even at outing with friends. Because I have too less to talk, how are you, how is ur family, weather, and i m stuck. But when other guys are talking around me, and they are encouraging then I keep getting ideas and keep particpating in the talk. But thats not too often the case. Are you getting me? Difficult for me to reach others as then I dont know what to do, or what to say.
I have interests, in book reading, sports etc, can talk on topics, but dont know the tact of moving along with disucssions.
What i want to know is, is that related to anxiety & depression etc? Because I've some of the personality traits they've pointed out like hiding anger, lack of assertiveness, negative & what if thinker etc

And yeah, Thanks for listening. That really means a lot.

I totally get you! I am a guy who loves being around people, but I would prefer to just listen to others and just be around...

I feel that it is very closely linked to anxiety and depression because it is our thought process, our inner dialogue, and low self-esteem which causes all of the issues which keep us from talking.

And on a side note, I heard once that those who are quiet are thinking a lot instead of talking a lot. We are creative people who are actually very interesting.

THANK YOU Smpk!