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I have a husband and mother who are against me going to counseling and being on medication. I gathered enough courage to do both despite my husband saying he would leave me. If he left me, I thought I would end my life. He ended up not leaving even though he mentioned several time and paying for my treatment. He thought signing up for this program would give me the confidence to not having counseling or meds. My counselor told me to stop worrying and go on with the rest of my life. The counselor at least understands it is a habit that takes a while to break. I have let my mother and husband control me all my life and trying to change this. But, I do have to learn how to have confidence and self-worth and not just please others. I still have anxiety attacks when I can't seem to please others. My family tells me to not care what others think just do what I can. I struggle with this to please people what they want and need. I should choose if I want to help them or not and may just help people what they need. I need to accept the help I give is good enough.

AmandaJ

DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO TO GET BETTER ,AMANDA. TELL HUSBAND YOU WILL CONTINUE WITH MEDS AND THERAPY. THERE IS A LIFE OUT THERE FOR YOU .GO GET IT. GOOD LUCK ........MALIKYE

Having a husband who is not supportative , is going to add to your anxiety. Did he ever say why? Maybe he likes you this way. Get the help you need to have a happy life..... seeing a therapist or taking meds is not a bad thing. Some people need this, doesn't make you a bad person. I can relate to the people pleaser. We have to do for us, and help others when really needed. we spend way to much time worrying about what others think, when the only person we need to have approval from is us. Stick with what your doing, and you will be on your way to a new life. Good luck

when i first started counseling, i had friends and family who were totally against me going, and they tried to stop me from going to counseling, but i stuck to my guns and did what I thought was best for me, and I've been in counseling for about 6 years now, and will never stop unless I absolutely have to. I should've been in counseling YEARS ago.
Hope this helps you. We're here for you Your friend

Dana

You are an amazingly stong person to go forward and get help even though the 2 people closest to you were not supportive.

You cannot make anyone else happy if you are not happy with yourself. You have to do what you need to do to heal yourself. Make you a priority. GO FOR IT. You are doing a great thing and are on the road to a new life of loving yourself.

Thank you all for your comments and support. This is probably the first time I am doing something for myself and trying to improve self-esteem and confidence.

AmandaJ

My husband thinks with being on the meds will make me lose my personality and be a zombie or I will kill him in his sleep. Both him and my mother are in denial of my problem since I really haven't had any health problems prior this. They would also tell me I don't need to go to the doctor or other treatment since it is just anxiety and I will get over it, which this has made it difficult for me to think that I am worthy of treatment when I am worthy of treatment. My thoughts get confusing of if I really need treatment or just my anxiety playing tricks on me. Now I am on the highest level of anti-depressants Seroquel and still trying to accept being on it. It is scary to think of the side effects of Seroquel since so many law suits out there for it. It has made me dizzy and drowsy first being on it but it is helping my obsessive thinking a lot.

Amanda,
Stay in there........ my mom and some family and friends, and former wife were against me at first in '77 for going to counseling. You deserve better for yourself. It's hard when a spouse is resistant. It's him and mom-in-laws problem not yours. Be calm and diplomatic. Show them what it is, that the program will help, and that you will not be a zombie or want to kill him- where do people get such outlandish ideas. You're in my prayers. from a fellow journeyer who started on 2/5...