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It’s decision time and I value your input. Should I take the program or not.

I am 66 years old, never married and retired, and still working on problems which have plagued me all my life. I come from a classical anxiety producing background where there was never any approval given, and where parental approval was mandatary or else. Up to my mid-twenties I thought that my entire purpose in life was to serve my parents, and that was where I was coming from.. That I had no worth of my own but to serve them,. As such there was never any self esteem, and never any encouragement. and most of my anxieties arise out of the subconscious. My father never saw much in me, and I can never remember him or my mother ever saying that they liked the way I did something.

Based on a little research, I believe that I have a social anxiety disorder which manifests itself in three problem areas which I think have to do with meeting someone else’s expectations or performing up to those expectations.

First, when I was working, whenever I went to work, the anxiety level would go up the closer I got to the job and decrease on the way back home. On the job, I felt like I was spaced out most of the time and in a way like I had been drinking. This went on through my entire working career. (I have a Master’s with a 3.9 index, but I did not do well, of course).

Second. I was unable to leave home on a trip of any kind without experiencing a nausea that increased in intensity as the departure date loomed. This was only in reference to leaving home, When I traveled, I did not experience the anxiety in reverse or have any anxiety when I was away. Also, I was never able to leave home on a permanent basis without feeling all sorts of negative feelings some of them expressed to me by my parents. There was never any support or encouragement. It was always “You leave, then you make your own bed and lie in it. You can’t come back.” The threats were always there.

Third,. I have never been able to have a sustained romantic relationship without that crippling nausea entering the picture to the point that I would have to stop dating that person. I found that I could have marvelous conversations with married women at the office for hours on end, but put me in a situation where I was one on one with someone on a date, and I went to pieces with crippling anxiety.

So the question is: Will this program help me. Is it worth the time and expense? Maybe it is just too late.

Worry_wort

Dear Worry_Wort,

I would not waste any more time wondering if you should buy this program or not, it is worth every penny. In late 2007 I went to the emergency room 6 times because I was convinced I was having a heart attack. I have spent years in the torture of anxiety and it only kept getting worse. You have to take care of yourself, I too come from a family were there is not a lot of affirmation of good deeds. But you know what anxious people are probably the most intelligent people on the planet, and my doctor agrees, she says you have to be intelligent to trick your own mind. Please purchase the program so you can start revealing the truth to yourself and only then will you get free. Before I purchased the program I could not work or drive and it even got to the point where I did not want to go out of the house at all. Now I am driving again, I can drop off my kids and pick them up by myself. I love going places,(I still don't like going to far or over bridges, but I am working on that). I don't feel like I am dying every minute and I realize that I do have talents and I am worth something. I hope this helps but do yourself a favor and purchase the program.

GET THE PROGRAM!!!

Hands down. No questions ask. It doesn't matter how long it's been, where you come from or how old you are...this program will improve your life.

worry-wort,
i just turned 62 this month.i finished the program in 2004..i can tell you from experience that it will help you to get the skills and tools that you need to help you on your journey to recovery. let me say this. if you have carried it like i had and held it in then its hard work but, if i can do it then you can as well.so what i would do and the longer yo wait the worse it gets. youneed to find peace on your life. when i read part of your post it made me feel like i used to. i think that is what brings panic. we carry that heavy load all our lives and there is not happiness. take care and good luck and be blessed.
don

I agree. Get the program. I had problems after my marriage ended in that I felt that someone would expect too much from me and maybe I couldn't live up to their expectations etc. My confidence in myself was not very high. I was always worrying about this in relationships - It all had to do with how I felt about myself and not being able to handle the anxiety that this caused. Getting a handle on the anxiety and working on the positive self talk has helped immensely. It's ok if I get rejected, it's ok if I'm not perfect, and it's ok if I make mistakes. I'm not going to let this destroy how I feel about myself - life is just too short and no it is not too late.

Worry Wort....

I believe this program has alot of fine tools that you may discover is a blessing. I was actually able to learn a couple...but most were already shown to me by various professionals. So the program help support what I had already been taught. Its never to late to be good to yourself!

Blessings.

Even if the program helps you in one step versus twelve ...........your still a step forward then where you were........

Heres the first step...begin to treat yourself to the program...

Worrywort,
I hate to answer questions with a question, but ask yourself this: Is it ever too late to be happpy? Yes, the program is expensive, but if you call the customer service department they will work with you as far as payments go. Also, read the posts here. Every person on this program is making or has made progress. We are all better off than when we started. Do this for yourself. You won't regret it.

GET THE PROGRAM!!!! You have nothing to lose, it has a 100% money back guaranteed. It does really work. Before I purchased it, I had tried everything, books, counseling, etc. And I was very suspicious about buying it. I'm glad I did. Remember, Lucinda has been where we are so she understands. That was the difference between this program and the others. I have learned not to let other people behaviors affect my life. I no longer identify or need others to build my self worth. I have found my true identity in Christ. You have to take care of yourself, you don't need to meet anyone's expectations, only your own. Believe me, I know it's very hard to reverse the things that have been inbedded in you for as long as you can remember. But you can change that. It's never too late.

Whatever controls your mind controls your life.

I say you give it a try. If you have tried everything else and found it not to help, then this may be the key. There is also agreat book by Joyce Meyers called Battlefield of the Mind. I think this would be something beneficial for you to read.