Stress Center Peer Support

Any idea on how to stop feeling resentful about things? Do they address this further into the program? I find myself very resentful of things and situations, some in the present, some regarding the past. For instance, I resent the way certain people get ahead or get what they want when they're doing everything they're not supposed to. Like when a guy at work will repeatedly come in late, and/or leave early, not do the work he's supposed to, or screw it up etc, but, because he can bulls**t so well, and bitches and complains all the time, he gets a raise. (I'm using one person as example, but I've witnessed this over and over again with many people). Where as I, who comes in on time, sometimes early, stays late when needed, does the work and does it well; when others mess up, I'm the one everyone comes to to fix it, another resentment. Always having to be responsible for others mistakes. I'm the one who's always 'the dependable one', 'the responsible one', yet not only don't I get things when I ask for them, I sometimes have to take less so the a-hole can get what he's bitching for. Its not in my nature to bitch about every little thing, or to take advantage of people. I'm the loyal one, the one with a conscience. Yet, I start to feel this is wrong. The phrase "nice guys (or girls) finish last" seems to be very true.
Another resentment: as a kid I was always into animals. This was one of several things I was teased and ridiculed for. I was always wanting to spend time with animals, and I could imitate their sounds very well, and knew a great deal about them. But, I was made fun of for this, and there wasn't much in the way of things to do to use my passion other than volunteering at the local pet store. Now, I see these shows like this new Adventure Camp on Discovery Kids about 8 kids who get to work at a big zoo. Or I saw a girl on another show who was being praised and called a real life Doctor Dolittle for her ability to imitate animal calls. These kids aren't being made fun of like I was. They aren't being told 'enough already' for wanting to commit their life to what they love. Quite the contrary. They're being given a chance to live a dream because of what they like to do.Or all these kids being raised as vegetarian when I was told that's no way to eat when I wanted to do the same thing as a kid. By the way, I'm 45 now.I find myself hating them for having the life I feel I should have had. I guess I was born too soon. I don't like feeling this way. I should probably be happy that kids these days have all these cool opportunities that I didn't have, but I don't. I resent it. I feel my life might have turned out much better, and I might not have as much anxiety and depression if I had been given these opportunities instead of ridicule. How do I stop? I know its interfering with my progress in the program.

youare never to old to find what you want to do and to fulfill yor dreams.you are still young and can make it work for you.do not worry what the one that you are talking about that gets ahead when he does not deserve it.
just learn to look the other way and in time he wil get his due.
what we went through is why some of us had to do the program and get past all the thoughts and bad things in our life.it is not easy to change but if you will learn to let it go you will find that you will not get as stressed out as you might other wise. read my profile and it will fill you in on a few things. take care and be blessed.
don
if i can do it so can you..have faith in yourself.

I know, you're never too old to do something new. Unfortunately, these things that I see kids being able to do now, that I wish had been available to me when I was their age, I don't think are a reality now. At their age, they don't have jobs they have to keep to live, they don't have bills to pay, or spouses to take care of etc. Right now, I can't afford to finish painting my living room, or finish my garden restoration as well as many other projects due to lack of funds. That's something else that depresses me. I look around and see all the plans I made, or projects I started and due to one thing or another not of my control, I haven't been able to finish them, and don't know when I will. Work is very slow, and I'm not sure how much longer I'll even have a job. Yes, I can always get a new one, but not one that gives me the freedom over my own time like this one I've had for 21 years so far. So I feel like there's no point in dreaming, I have to live in reality. And to me, that brings resentment in seeing those who got the chance that never even existed when I would have been able to do those things.

you will find that you will not get as stressed out as you might other wise

Actually, I have already noticed this in regard to my general short temper (I'm a red-head, short temper is in my DNA. LOL) I've noticed a big change in the way I react to little things. Things that used to get me very aggravated and/or frustrated, I seem to just let roll on by. I'm assuming this is due to what I've learned so far from this program. I've just finished my week on session 3 dealing with negative thoughts, but I think I'm going to spend an extra week on it. My anxiety level seems to have dropped significantly. Now its more my resentments and depressing thoughts that I'm fighting.

even though i am much older then you i still dream of things tat i want to do or would like to do. at 62 i eel like it is never too old to dream that one day you can do thins or that. and who knows you might get to do it.the program will be a great help to you.are for the red head its ok at least you have hair lol.just kidding you.lession 3 will help you and so will the other ones.
ahhh, the dreams that i had when i were growing up. some i never got to do and others i did and when i did, it did not seem to matter that much as i thought it would lol.
i hope that yo do well in the program and i even hope that you get yourliving room painted.that is not too much to ask and who know maybe someone will come and paint it for you.read my profile like i tell everyone else and maybe it will help you some and give you faith to get through things. be blessed.
don

Thanks for the kind words *D*. I did read your bio, you've really been through a lot and come through it well. I'm impressed. I do have dreams, but they seem too far out of reach. Either for money, or time, or responsibilities or all the above. Right now, I've been trying to save for a new roof, mine leaks. I've had it patched twice by two different people who claimed to guarantee their work, but when it still leaked and I tried to get them back, they didn't return my calls and one of them had done different handy work things for me lots of times over the years. But if I try and save for the roof, then I can't be working on the living room, or the yard. And some of what I was saving went to doctors appointments, etc. It always seem like just as I'm starting to pull ahead, something happens to send me back to where I was, if not further behind. I feel no matter what I'm doing, its taking away from something else, and there's a LOT to be done. So dreaming of doing even more, or of doing big things (like one day going to Australia) are dreams that I don't see ever happening. And that is a big source of depression for me. Overwhelmed by all the things that need to be done (forget about what I want to do) and not knowing how or when they'll ever get finished.