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I have panic attacks when i fight with my boyfriend. He's very understanding and calms me down but I know the situation is stressful and wearing on him. I was just wondering what I can do in a stressful moment such as an arguement to quickly regain my emotional stability so that he doesn't need to restore it every time for me. Any hints or tricks out there?

hi chelle

STOP, STEP BACK, and THINK before you say anything, before it gets to the fighting point!
Think about things for a day or so...before you continue whatever you were having trouble communicating about. When you begin to try to talk about it again you will have had time to think about what you really want to say and express. Well Hope I have helped. Good luck.

Chelle I can relate to your issue. I have probably had some sort of anxiety since a young age, the anxiety had spiked again since July '07 and has not exactly killed my quality of life, but certainly has dragged some good times down.

Anyway, I had applied for a new job at work (a lateral promotion that would have given me my own team) and I did not get it. It took 2 months for all of us to find out who got the job. By the time it was revealed, for better or worse I wanted it over! Well, got my wish, not the job now each time I talk to people about not getting the job or a meeting I had to follow up the interview process I can feel myself getting tighter and more scared of something happening.

I have to get up and walk around and breath. Breath, very important - Anyway, while anxiety is old, this discussion anxiety is new!

My hint or trick is to walk it off. Breath and think positive. Not about the fight your having, but that your not going to die, your not losing your mind, and you are going to be just fine!

You hit home with this topic and perfect timing. Yes my husband use to get tired of dealing with anxiety/panic with me. He use to be my strong focus......my calmer and reassurer. Now he seems to be the trigger most of the time. I don't want to take a Xanax to get my perfect peace back. So just as Engine had stated I go for a walk....I have to leave the kids and just walk and deep breath....snow and all. But while I'm breathing and walking I do pray in the spirit. Something about walking is soothing, It helps the adrenaline released within you to cccaaalllmmm down and diminish. Blessings always

Tonight I had to take my infant to urgent care....and I could not walk and leave her....yes my heart was racing and andrenaline was there....I kept breathing while trying to listen to the Doctor and ignore my body symptons and I survived. It wasn't fun but again it does pass. If you can find a quick fix for crisis moments let me know

My husband talks me down every day for a wide variety of reasons. He hates when I shut him out and don't talk. He likes me to look at him and listen/don't block out what he's saying. Take deep breaths of course and say it will pass, it will pass. Hope this helps.

I don't have any tricks for the anxiety. I had to go out to my daughter's performance and it took all I had to get there. Panic, jelly legs and shortness of breath were all there, and I get all these same symptoms when I fight with my husband. He is not very understanding of the disease and thinks it is all in my head and it is, but that I should beable to function as normal as I always have. I was always able to hide it well up until 6 mos ago, and then it hit hard and everything is a struggle now. Hang in there and keep practicing your relaxation techniques. Good luck.