Finding a job that fits.

Future · Post by **Future** » Mon Jun 02, 2008 2:55 am

Hi all,

is anyone going through the same experience. The inability to find a job that fits their personality or their style of work. I am the kinda of person that likes to go to work do my job and come home no hassles. Instead I work in an environment where you are constantly shown disrespect and rude behaviour and treated like you have no choice. Your creative energy is ignored or not used. I am in the process of conpleting my contract for my current job and I can't wait. I am literally counting down the days. For the first time in any employment I have used up all my sick days. My concern is I will never find a job where I fit in, where I never use my sick days, where I can respect and be respected by the people I work with. My husband wants me to stay because the money is good and we are in the process of buying a house. But my happiness is more important.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Jun 02, 2008 3:05 am

I am not sure there are any jobs that do not have hassels, but I agree with you. I think I need a job that fits my personality. I would really like to stay and overcome the the anxiety with the program. I am not sure if it is the job that drives me crazy or the fact I do suffer from anxitey and worry about everything.

chellebelle · Post by **chellebelle** » Mon Jun 02, 2008 4:16 am

Have you thought about seeing a career counselor to see if you can find your niche? The company I work for has a pretty tight zero tolerance policy and rudeness counts, you just have to bring it to the attention of the right people. It's definetly not a dream job and the money is just okay but around this area good full time work is hard to come by too.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Jun 02, 2008 4:25 am

This has been a problem for me for a long time. I am so confused about what I want to do. I can never come up with anything that I would be good at or would really like. I worry that the problem is with me and I am unable to accept work is rough and you just have to deal with it.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Jun 02, 2008 5:55 am

My concern is I will never find a job where I fit in, where I never use my sick days, where I can respect and be respected by the people I work with.

I understand it can be difficult. But, I do think there is a place somewhere. To say that a place does not exist where you fit in is to say you know about every company in existence. But you don't. So, I think this is a thought distortion called JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS and specifically The Fortune Teller Error. You anticipate things will turn out badly, and you feel convinced that your prediction is an already established fact. But, it's not.

In my last job I came across problems in accounting and tried to address them with management but they had no interest. I've had a problem with this in the past when much of it has had to do with my own perfectionist tendencies. But I've grown over the years and the little stuff doesn't bother me that much anymore. I have to fight the thoughts that everyone is dishonest and a jerk as a result of my last job, the subprime mess, Enron, etc. It's my own distorted thinking, I hope. Still looking for a good, ethical company. If I can't find one I'll choose to drive a truck instead.

And I am absolutely serious.

~*schnauzermom*~ · Post by **~*schnauzermom*~** » Mon Jun 02, 2008 6:01 am

I have the same problem. I have tried an instrument called Career Direct and it does help you explore your personality traits and abilities and skills and interests and values. It's thorough. I have not been able to take this help though and turn it into an action plan. I tend to just take what comes along and I have had some decent jobs but I want to feel like I am in the best place for me. I quit my last job because my depression was getting really bad and I didn't realize the anxiety connection. Rationally, it was a bad situation with little chance for decent income or any real fulfillment. There were many good reasons to leave so I did. It was a leap of faith and a choice I made for good reasons so I am not too upset about leaving. I have been out of work for 6 weeks and have had a few interviews, but no job offers.
Session 4 talks about expectations and I think i just don't have a sense of direction and my fear of failure gets in the way. I am hoping this program and the people here can help me work on these fears and make some prgress.
So, I know where many of us are coming from and helps to know I am not truly alone in this struggle.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Jun 02, 2008 7:01 am

Originally posted by SCDon:
I think i just don't have a sense of direction and my fear of failure gets in the way.

Boy this sounds just like me SCDon. Hang in there I believe this program will get us on the right track

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jun 04, 2008 7:25 am

Don,

There was a time when I was lost as to what type of work to pursue. What I've learned is that with healthy self-esteem we think we can do a variety of types of work and be good at it. I got some books or workbooks, actually, on how to find out what you're good at. I knew how that would turn out, but did it anyway, accounting. Duh, as if I didn't know. But, the accounting jobs I had had didn't work out that great. I tried working for myself inputting customer addresses and printing mailing labels for retail stores [picked up U.S Shore Corp. and subsidiaries as a customer in 1984] and had a mowing service, then I went to work for a pharmacy. My problem was that I didn't make what I needed to to make it worthwhile because I didn't consider myself worth that much. Bottom line problem was self-esteem. After getting the program I decided to try accounting again and this time it has worked out well because I have coping skills to weather adverse circumstances and believe in myself that I have the ability to do the work.

My problem in not knowing what direction to take was that I lacked self esteem to think I was good at anything. Usually this isn't true. We all have talents, but if self-esteem is the problem even someone with a 4.0 GPA will not think he has any talent or intelligence.