Stress Center Peer Support

I have been experiencing times when I am fairly free from my anxiety and times when I am locked down. I know this is probably common but it seems like even when I am having the best time like this last Saturday at the Oregon Zoo I still always have a dread/scared feeling inside me. I wish that feeling would go away. If I wake up in rhe morning and feel even a slight bit dizzy or light headed I automatically ask myself whats wrong?! I think I forgot what "normal" feels like I have had anxiety symptoms so long! I am tired of thinking about choking, dying, and not being able to breathe right. Or that there is something wrong with my health. I have the program and am on week 3 still but I know it works but I can't seem to quit the negative thoughts and the WHAT IF......? I feel alone in my family cuz if I try to explain it they all just say "Oh yeah, its just your anxiety." And my response is(in my head) you have no freakin idea how miserable and real feeling this is and how do you know its nothing? I would love to find someone that lives close to me with anxiety so I could go outside and do something with them and feel like if I did have a hard time then they could understand how I feel and not just roll their eyes at me when I tell them how I feel. I get that ALOT from my family. But thanks for reading and sorry its long!

Hello,

Well I would be more than happy to get out with you but can't. I'm just too far away but can hopefully make you feel less alone with all these feelings.
I really have found that one of the hardest things for people to understand is everything they havn't actually felt themselves. It can be a migrain, toothache, chronic pain, faigue, lonelyness, child birth, fear, anxiety, depression, sadness, loss of a loved one, and so on. THEY JUST CAN'T understand until or unless they have been through it themselves. I really don't even look for help from others anymore with my Fibromyalgia unless it's someone who also has it because they can't really know how much pain there is or how it really feels. I believe this is true with our issues of scary thoughts and anxious feelings and depression. I come here and read and reply to the posts instead of looking to someone who hasn't got a clue and may never have a clue as to how I/we feel and how hard we are fighting to get better. It's ok because we have learned we can't change others...only ourselves.

Keep the FAITH, BELIEVE IN YOU, NEVER GIVE UP, YOU WILL BEAT THIS...we all will.

Well Wishes and <span class="ev_code_PINK">(((HUGS)))</span>

I too worry about all the things that no one else seems to care about. I have a real hard time relating to other people cause I am always wondering/worring what if, what about, and so on. I too wish I had someone that I could relate to unfortunately I live far away from you. I try not to let others get me down, I spend more time with my dogs then I due my friends just because I am afraid of what they think and say especially when I am not around. My husband thinks I just don't get along with women, but even some of the things he says can get to me without him meaning it in a bad way. I too know how your family and friends don't have a clue what is actually going on in your mind. I don't have the program yet it's suppost to be on it's way and I am looking forward to starting it. Just remember keep your head up and walk with confidence - that is what helps me.

Hello Nettebear and welcome,

I love the last line and it has so much truth behind it...I feel. It's great you have the program coming and you will grow so much and find so many ways to think differently and react differently to how people affect you on a daily basis. I too much prefer my time with my 4 dogs over many people. It's because we get unconditional love from them..my feelings and they ask nothing from us other than food, water and love. They don't care if we are perfect in every way, how we look, talk, etc. the way so many people do.

I wanted to just say hi and wish you so much luck when you start your journey towards a happier, more joyous life.

Lots of support here..when you want or need it.

God Bless,
Deborah

i also get tired of trying to explain to people what really goes on with anxiety you are right for people who have never had they could never understand it you feel like you are dying or are wondering if you are gonna die 24/7 sometimes i see people laughing and joking around and ask what have i done so wrong in life that i am not able to do that i also prefer to be with my 3 dogs because they have no opinions and do love you no matter what anyway i just ordered the program and am waiting for it to come i will get better and so will you and everyone else out there together we are a group and strong