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I'm obsessive about my husband's past. We've been married for 3 years now (together for 6). Obviously before we were together he was with other women. There were also times when we "took a break" from dating, during which he saw other women.

There's one girl in particular that really disturbs me. My husband was interested in her before we were together and I know she was interested in him when we were dating. I always felt like, had I not been in the picture, my husband would've jumped at the opportunity to date her. This bugs the cr*p out of me. Anyways, she's moved back to town and my obsessive thinking has restarted. All I think about is her: she's beautiful, smart and I can't help but feel like my husband might have a thing for her. He's admitted to me that he finds her attractive and I can't get this out of my mind.

I accuse my husband of having feelings for her, he says he's fed up with my irrational thoughts, I feel guilty for thinking this, but my insecurity about the situation doesn't seem to go away.

I'm obsessed, I even look at her facebook. I feel like a crazy person. What's wrong with me? How do I get over this?

I would suggest that you didn't accuse your hubby of liking her in that way. In fact, I would not even mention her name in front of him...

Ask yourself these questions...Is your hubby attentive towards you? Does he do nice things for you? Does he enjoy having relations with you?

What makes you think that you are not more attractive than this other lady? Remember...Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder!!!!

Could you been suffering from low self-esteem?
I am sure you are just as intelligent, if not more so, than this other lady!!!

I wouldn't give this one another thought, since, by doing so, you are only hurting yourself...

Live for the moment...Time will tell...

If you hubby isn't interested in this other lady, then, your accusations could very well push him away!!! So, I would not accuse him of anything...period...

I do not think you are one bit crazy...I just think that you are deeply in love with your hubby, and are terrified of losing him to someone else...

I would not torture myself by getting on facebook looking at this other lady...

I would just assume my hubby loves me, unless, he says otherwise!!!!

I pray this helped in some odd way...God Bless

This sounds like a tough situation and I have been there, bu you have to understand the the past is the past, he obviously wants to be with you he married and he is with you. I am sure you have seen someone attractive but didnt have the feelings you have for them like you do with your husband I am sure it is the same thing.
I made the mistake once for accussing and over thinking about a relationship and I did it so much I pushed him away, you obvisouly dont want yo lose your husband but if you keep thinking something is going on or that he is going to leave you for her it isnt a good way to have your marriage. He comes home to you every night after all. 6 years is a long time. I wouldnt worry about this other women he obvisouly doesnt want her or he would have had her a long time ago. Dont push him away by being afraid there is nothing more unattractive then a women with no confidence in herself. Keep you head up and keep me posted. And take her off your facebook it might help and be a first step no need to worry yourself sick things will work itself out