Stress Center Peer Support

I was so very excited to get onto this site and relate to people like me, but then an unexpected thing happened. I found myself getting anxious if people did not respond to my posts--Thinking they thought my remarks were insignificant. Anyone else feel this way. It's like needing to be accepted anywhere and with anything.

If you don't want to initiate a post you can always reply to someone else's. I've had some that were not replied to and I'm sure other people have to. There are so many people that come on line here and a lot of categories that if you don't get a reply right away you may at a later time. Just jump in anywhere.

I hear you. After I introduced myself I spent much of the rest of the day thinking about what I wrote. I had so many thoughts racing around in my head and fears about "what people might think about me now". I went so far as to visualize a scenario with the people who monitor these posts reading what I wrote and laughing at me and saying negative comments about me. I have to remember though that this is what I do and why I feel the way I do. I'm way to focused on myself. I think in my head I honestly believe anything I say is looked at by everyone, given top priority and 100% attention and critiqued. Give me a break. I need to stop requiring attention and validation from everyone I come into contact with just to feel ok. If you made remarks...they are significant to you!!! That's what's important. Feel strenth because you said them. Don't wait to feel good about what you've said until someone responds to validate you. I know, I know...easier said then done. Good luck.

It really is a selfish thing in the end to feel that way--I know!! I caught myself feeling that way and laughed it off at first, but then it kept bothering me. I have a lot of really close friends that I share intimate stuff with--I get immediate positive response from them--I'm not so used to cyberspace acceptance--it hits me funny that I reacted the way I did!!

many of us are like that ,we always want others to like what we do ,we worry about what they would say, if they will like what we do ,would it sound good enough, and we go on and on,

I am session 10 right now.. and I must say I still find it hard to come on to write some times ,I dont like talking to much, and I dont like writng , It may sound selfish but thats how it is ..

Its been a long while since I didn't share or say something on the forum... sometimes I get ready to write something and then I just totally blank out dont even know what I want to say , you all may say thats Crazy ..and I am not blaming it on anxiety or depression .