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Posted: Wed Oct 01, 2008 2:31 am
by bna
I need a little assistance on something that's been bothering me. I can't tell if I am being overly sensitive or if I am making something out of nothing. I am not a touchy feely kind of person. I am uncomfortable with anything more than a handshake especially if I don't know you well.

Monday night while at a meeting helping out, the coordinator came over and shook my hand with his righthand and squeezed my elbow with his left hand. Ok, I didn't think too much of it. The meeting was very busy with alot of parents registering their children for religious education classes. I was the only other volunteer there to help besides the coordinator.

Again he came over while I was speaking with another parent and squeezed my elbow to thank me for helping out. As he spoke with others I did observe that he did this same type of handshake with others.

Now this morning, while at Church, I had a few panicky moments when I saw him and wondered what if he was coming on to me and I didn't realize it. This started the adrenaline rush. I did realize I was beginning with body symptoms and began to use my skills to calm myself and I was ok.

After mass, while leaving Church, I shook hands with the Priest and the coordinator ws standing there. He patted/rubbed me on the back and again thanked me for my assistance the other night because it was much busier than he had anticipated and he really appreciated my help.

I need a little help here.Am I being overly sensitive?. Am I making more out of this than what it is? My husband thinks I am. I know I definitely was in negative what if thinking mode. What if someone is coming on to me and I don't know it? Am I just looking for something to obessess over?

Any thoughts/suggestions would be appreciated. Thank you. Take care and God Bless.

Posted: Wed Oct 01, 2008 8:36 am
by Guest
Probably. Personally I am more uncomfortable when people pat me on my shoulder.

Even if I am wrong at least you are still attractive to get his attention and that in of itself isn't bad.

If the behavior escalates just tell the guy that you aren't comfortable. He'll get the message.