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Please someone help.. I decided enough was enough with my husband. I was tired of the emotional abuse and put him out.. and this is his response 2 months later as he is living with his ex wife..

"This is one of the most coldest, unattached emails I have ever gotten from you. I now know that you dont love me and that our relationship is over. You have me all wrong, some things make a person wake up to the reality of the world. this surely has. I have been faithful to you and I have not sought after getting into any other relationship with anyone. You say you love me., I think no longer. You have definately shown that to me. Winter is coming and you promised to send me a coat and sweaters, but you never did. I got sick from walking in the cold with no coat. Some days were warmer so I managed with a sweatshirt. But you didnt care. You know I first had only packed shorts to go to florida but then I luckily packed 2 pairs of jeans. Thank God I did because otherwise I would have no long pants, because you wouldnt have sent them to me either if I need some. What did you do with all my stuff? Throw it out? You probably did. Afterall I asked you that in a previous email that you refused to answer. I have to leave here in a about an hour, and I have no where to go. I guess you figure its not your problem, but its heartbreaking that you sent me away and lied to me, telling me that I would come back. You never had any intention to have me back, and you know it as much as I. Dont worry, but look for a letter in the mail, it'll be my goodbye to you. As you will see this has been in planning for some time, well as I realized you no longer wanted me. It'll even save you the hassle of filing for divorce and paying to divorce me. I dont want you to say anything that I have someone else because I dont. Call the people you know are around at this moment and they will tell you the same. Pinky and Rose will both tell you that I love you and only you and that I wasnt here trying to shack up with anyone. I was only trying to get back home somehow. Nevertheless, I will fade away from this life as I am tired and full of heartbreak. You may think its a joke but you'll find out. I only wanted to share my life with you and to grow old by your side. With you gone from my life, I have nothing left. A special woman you have been to me, but you'll never come to know that. People do change, but you didnt give me the chance to show you that I did. You sent me away and gave me nothing to look forward to live for. Let that be your demon to live with after I am gone from this place and world. My daughter Jessica, she is too wrapped into herself and her life. I have tried to bond with her but I dont think there is any getting through to her. She will not miss me. I guess no one will.
Goodbye Carla. I truly did love you and I miss you oh so much...
Love you truly madly deeply,
Goodbye,"

Please help me!!! Is this an idle threat from a manipulative controlling man, or something I should take seriously??

Misty

hi there, my name is Carla too. Weird. But it isn't up to me to say if this is an empty threat on not. It seems as though you were very unhappy with him and it seems like you did the right thing to leave him if he was abusive in any way. You of course know him a lot more than I do and I'm sure you have a better grasp of the situation than I do. You should call StressCenter and ask them what to do, or ask a professional to help you out. I wish you the best of luck with this. And feel free to Private message me or just reply to this and let me know how it goes. Please. Good luck hun.

Hi mistybloo.

Call a mental hospital give them his clothes so that he won't be cold, and have them lock him in so that he can't hurt himself. Then go on with your life.

Mental abuse is very serious. Don't let him convince you to take him back.

So many men say they'll kill themselves if you don't take them back.

But only you know what type of mental stability he has. Maybe he's serious, maybe he's trying to manipuleate you into taking him back. That's why you need to call a mental health facility and have him locked up. Immediately. You'll see then if he's joking.

Mistyboo

I stayed in a relationship with someone for several years because he cut himself and would threaten to kill himself. I regret that I stayed in the relationship. When I finally left him - he did not kill himself. But what I realized over time is that it would not have been my fault if he had. You have a right to live your own life. Let go and let God. Easier said than done, I know, as I am currently tangled up with anxiety as a result of my own distorted thoughts. If you want our of this relaitionship, commit to getting out but be sure to get professional help foryourself if you need it (counseling).
Best.