Posted: Sat Jan 31, 2009 10:45 am
I had an epiphany. All my life I needed women's approval. I need to be coddled emotionally or sexually. I think this need for approval and affirmation from woman goes back to my childhood. Duuuhh!
Now, at the age of 48 I realize men and women think very, very differently. I have always pretended to think that I thought more like a woman. But I finally have to admit that I don't! Many a struggle has gone on with me and my wife, or female co-workers. I see that men would get a certain email joke, and that woman (supposedly old friends) who not get it. They would get snippy and annoyed. I was hurt by this! But why was I hurt by this! Because I needed this woman's approval! And that's not healthy!
I notice that it's the men who don't need woman's approval are the ones who do best with them.
There is more to write but I will spare all of you.
But no longer will I expect that my inner need for affirmation from woman will be filled, because I no longer need affirmation or coddling from woman. I just don't need it! Men and women are different, and they never will be the same.
Now, at the age of 48 I realize men and women think very, very differently. I have always pretended to think that I thought more like a woman. But I finally have to admit that I don't! Many a struggle has gone on with me and my wife, or female co-workers. I see that men would get a certain email joke, and that woman (supposedly old friends) who not get it. They would get snippy and annoyed. I was hurt by this! But why was I hurt by this! Because I needed this woman's approval! And that's not healthy!
I notice that it's the men who don't need woman's approval are the ones who do best with them.
There is more to write but I will spare all of you.
But no longer will I expect that my inner need for affirmation from woman will be filled, because I no longer need affirmation or coddling from woman. I just don't need it! Men and women are different, and they never will be the same.