Taking your own advice

TroubledSue · Post by **TroubledSue** » Mon Dec 24, 2007 7:56 pm

Does anyone find it hard to take your own advice? I find it so easy to sit here and give, what I consider, decent to good advice. However, when I am anxious, or slip up and have a panic attack, I forget everything I try telling others. I just took some pepto because my stomach is really bothering me, which is bad enough, but, for whatever reason, I felt the pepto was causing my throat to swell. Instant panic attack. I chilled pretty quickly, which I guess is key. I guess you can't, not get worried, but you can handle it differently. I just get so frustrated when I sit here and say the words so easily to other people, but when it's me I'm dealing with "I'm" actually going to die, those other people just have anxiety. Ugh. Go away, I'm trying to avoid my Christmas, lol. (to my anxiety, not my fellow forum members, lol)

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Dec 25, 2007 4:06 am

It's really easy to fix others.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Dec 25, 2007 4:21 am

Hi sue...Ive read some of your posts this morning and I like the way you speak very natural.

I agree with you 100% for me I can easily see the answers to help others but cant seem to believe it when I say it to myself.

I constantly think Im different in some way and I have something worse that cant be fixed. I can totally understand how ridiculous that is but my body still sends out the feelings and thoughts. I sit here on christmas day my kids are playing Im very blessed and happy but I have a terrible cold that is still lingering and it makes me feel dizzy and lightheaded and rotten....and that makes me nervous.
how will I make it through my day? I had to miss church this year because we are all too sick to expose all those people. I know these are just negative thoughts and feelings but I still let them come.

Maybe you could give me advice and Ill give it to you and we will be good to go!

WE will both be ok....lets make a deal....Ill stop dwelling on how I feel if you do the same? My Christmas wish to feel better....I wish it for all of us.

Merry Christmas and I hope to see you in chat.
Dodger

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Dec 25, 2007 4:23 am

We know the skills inside out but sometimes it hard to apply them

I'm getting better at using them in my own life. There are some things that are more difficult than others. As long as we try to stop and regain focus. Certain "times" during the month I'm totally irrational and beyond any reasoning

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Dec 25, 2007 4:36 am

Dear Sue,

It is easy to get discouraged when we have a "relapse". You will get better and better at using the techniques of the program. Don't put yourself down or beat yourself up over imperfections in applying the techniques. We are all going to slip up now and then, just remember to interrupt the negative and refocus on something positive.

You can do it!!!!

Steve

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Dec 25, 2007 5:07 am

Merry Christmas first of all..And yes I am 2 the same way, Can help and fix everyone..but when it comes to me...o, boy! I head for the phone and call my mom..she is my fixer...However there have been times I couldn't call her and headed for my recovery tools..And Amazing enough "IT WORKED"!! But I know all to well how we forget what we are suppost to do...I keep drilling in my head positive self talk, this too will pass, it's just my anxiety, destressing Not dangerous!! No Danger!! and I do the BREATHING!!!! WOW!! AMAZING IT WORKS...I truly focus on the breathing part as that really and truly CALMS YOU DOWN, AND IF YOU RELAX IT WORKS MUCH FASTER..trust me I know this all to well, as I had to pick my grand daughter up from school, and wouldn't you know driving I have a panic attack!!! I couldn't let this 9 year old see that something was wrong, So I started the breathing, and adding "one,one thousand, two one thousand, three one thousand, and waaaalaaaa it worked, the panic shut down!! Yes my heart was racing and I wanted to find a safe place, and there was no place to go!! My safe place was myself, I focused on her school day and kept asking her questions after questions until she finallly said to me.."Grandma why are you asking all these questions, I said cause I care and love you honey!! I really do...but little did she know that I was heading for a full blown panic attack.....So self positive talk, BREATHING, and taking you mind some place other then you works wonders...HAVE A BLESSED DAY!! HUGS
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Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Dec 25, 2007 6:20 am

KEEP THE FAITH..NEVER LET GO..MOVE FORWARD ALWAYS AND FOREVER!!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Dec 25, 2007 6:59 am

Yep. This I think is actually a symptome of anxiety. Well not a symptom but a trait. We see how much we suffer, so if we see someone in more pain, or who had something bad happen to them, we feel like its our duty to ease thier pain. I know I feel a lot of anger ( and maybe some guilt) when I know people close to me have been traumatized in the past, and that they suffer. It makes me feel like my own suffering has no value because I never experiance things as bad as them. We always want to help others, sometime s at the expense of ourselves.

Heraldrex1 · Post by **Heraldrex1** » Tue Dec 25, 2007 9:50 am

I am the same, and I have been through the program no less that 3 times, you'd think I'd remember all the tools by now but in a crisis I forget, I get like a block and it always ends up with me coming on here for help

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Dec 25, 2007 10:31 am

TroubledSue,

I am the same way

. That's one of the reasons that I'm going to compile a list of realistic statements (self-talk statemtents) to put on a tape that I will listen to in the car/at home/etc. Perhaps you might try this. I refer to the "Self-Talk Solutions" book by Shad Helmstetter for ideas and suggestions.

I hope this suggestion helps you. I also hopes it might help me and others

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