Greetings -- I am still taking the program, although I've had to go at a slower pace. I have some pretty severe anxieties that cripple me and stop me dead in my tracks. One of them is when I travel.
The anxiety arises out of my subconscious and has no clear thoughts. Everytime I travel away from home significantly, this happens. I start getting stomach poroblems long before the trip and the closer I get to trip day, the worse it gets. Sometimes I will cancel out at great expense.
This week I made arrangements for a trip of 14 days to the Middle East (all safe areas) starting in Italy, going to Egypt, then to Cyprus, Malta, and Tunisia. This vacation will take place in about four months, but already I am starting to have stomach and nausea problems.
The one time I did therapy, the Dr. said it was abandonment issues. Seems I am abandoned, if I leave home. I know that as a four-year old, I used to get carsick, before I ever took the trip to distant relatives with my family. My family was with me. When I was nine months old I was in the hospital for 2 months with no visitors allowed. I'm 66 years old, now!
But the thing is, I can't identify with certainty any clear thoughts.
So, how can I apply the six steps. I know it is anxiety, I accept it, I can apply breathing techniques, but I have a hard time applying positive feedback to the situation when I don't know what it is. What should I do, here?
How Can I to Use Six Steps for Subconscious Anxiety????
wow your way to hard on yourself....traveling to these wonderfull cities...thats amazing...take the pressure off yourself your doing a fine job. Your out there going even though you feel icky you go and thats the main idea of the program.....
I would review the lesson on expectations and see if maybe yours are set a bit too high when it comes to yourself...most of us cant go to the grocery store alone without feelings and your traveling the world....be proud of what you are doing and maybe the other stuff will start to be less important since your not stressing about it.
Congratulations your doing a fine job.
I would review the lesson on expectations and see if maybe yours are set a bit too high when it comes to yourself...most of us cant go to the grocery store alone without feelings and your traveling the world....be proud of what you are doing and maybe the other stuff will start to be less important since your not stressing about it.
Congratulations your doing a fine job.
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I have the saaammmeeee issue. I cannot figure out the source, specifically, of my anxiety but it kicks in high gear when I'm going to travel. I hate it....I've slowed down on the program over the last 2 months due to work load and I've noticed a difference, not a good one. I need to focus and get back in the saddle.
If you figure it out, let me know!
If you figure it out, let me know!
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Hello Worry-wort,
There's nothing wrong with going at a slow pace. What's important isn't your speed but understanding the information and applying it to your every day life and you are capable of doing that. You say that the anxiety arises out of your subconscious and has no clear thoughts. Well if you can figure out what is causing it great, but if not don't worry about it. Let it go. Still use your six steps. They can still benefit you. As I was looking in my workbook all six steps you can still apply. The second one says give yourself permission to feel anxious about whatever it is that is bothering you. Of course I feel anxious because...and it's okay to have anxiety. Now you can look at that second one like this. I feel anxious for several reasons right now that I can't figure out and that's ok. I can and will take care of myself. If the reasons come to me I will deal with them. If not I will still be ok. It's just anxiety.
Relax. Keep busy with other things to take the focus off of your trip and when your trip time gets here, enjoy it. Have a great and safe trip!
All my best,
Inside<span class="ev_code_RED">Inside</span> Man
There's nothing wrong with going at a slow pace. What's important isn't your speed but understanding the information and applying it to your every day life and you are capable of doing that. You say that the anxiety arises out of your subconscious and has no clear thoughts. Well if you can figure out what is causing it great, but if not don't worry about it. Let it go. Still use your six steps. They can still benefit you. As I was looking in my workbook all six steps you can still apply. The second one says give yourself permission to feel anxious about whatever it is that is bothering you. Of course I feel anxious because...and it's okay to have anxiety. Now you can look at that second one like this. I feel anxious for several reasons right now that I can't figure out and that's ok. I can and will take care of myself. If the reasons come to me I will deal with them. If not I will still be ok. It's just anxiety.
Relax. Keep busy with other things to take the focus off of your trip and when your trip time gets here, enjoy it. Have a great and safe trip!
All my best,
Inside<span class="ev_code_RED">Inside</span> Man
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Guest
You can still apply the positive feedback to the situation. Tell yourself that "I don't know why this anxiety is here and don't know where it came from but I am capable of traveling and I really don't have anything to fear. Lots of people travel without anything bad happening, and that just because I am away from home does not mean I have been abandoned, it only means I am not home." I don't necessarily know where all my anxieties and fears came from either, but I still apply the realistic positive self talk to counter some of my off the wall fears.
Fellow bird watcher. Aren't they wonderful little things? (I read your profile)
Fellow bird watcher. Aren't they wonderful little things? (I read your profile)
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wel, i have to kind say i do and dont know where mine is and what causes it, i just cant control it. i happen to notice that i get mine when i get angry or upset about something that happened or something someone did, or said. but its always different, like my job, thats one, my father because we were so close and he was treating me like he was very angry with me and that bothered me alot. sometimes i can pin them down other times i cantOriginally posted by KitKat68:
I have the saaammmeeee issue. I cannot figure out the source, specifically, of my anxiety but it kicks in high gear when I'm going to travel. I hate it....I've slowed down on the program over the last 2 months due to work load and I've noticed a difference, not a good one. I need to focus and get back in the saddle.
If you figure it out, let me know!
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Hi, I admire you for making these vacation plans in the first place. It means that you have a sense of adventure. It's okay to be nervous about it. It's that damn anticipatory anxiety. Know it's going to come and know it's going to GO! I would recommend you use your relaxation tape even more than usual when you feel the anxiety coming on. And be sure to get your exercise each day to "burn" off that adrenaline. I just got a massage yesterday to help me de-stress. Are you on any meds? If not, perhaps you could get a small supply of an anti-anxiety medication to help you through so you aren't totally stressed. I usually find that I get stressed the week before the trip and on the flight but once I'm there my inner adventurer comes out and I don't even think about my anxiety. Keep us updated on how you're doing.