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Posted: Sun Oct 19, 2008 1:29 am
by SongWriter
I still can't get over it. Last June my sister (who I had a bad falling out with), did not invite me, my wife or 7 year old to her daughter's wedding. Yet my mother, other sister and two brothers went. Oh yeah, people were fighting for us to go, but it didn't work.
I feel since they all went (even though most of them think we should have gone) was an act of selling us out, dis ownership, or whatever you want to call it.
I FEEL VIOLATED AND DISOWNED! HOW DARE THEY!
I don't want anything to do with anyone in m y family again! Am I wrong for feeling this way? After all, if my brother wasn't invited might I have gone?
I feel my family was spit upon.
Posted: Sun Oct 19, 2008 1:55 am
by Guest
Well Song alot of this largely depends on the actual "falling out". Was any of this your fault did you overstep some boundries or was it the other side that did that? I mean if you were having such a bad falling out with that sister why on earth would you expect that she would include you in a very special day of thier lives. Maybe she was worried that there would be a scene and she didnt want that for her daughter.
Most times invitations come out way ahead of the event at that time did you try to make ammends with that sister and family? Did you make an effort to put things right so that your families could be together and happy?
I think saying your never going to talk to that sister again for this is kind of stupid. It took two sides to create this argument and its up to both to make it right. If its important to you than you will if its not then you wont and it wont matter to you.
It sounds to me that your obviously affected by this and hurt......so that would make me think you DO want to make it right. You can continue to hold grudges and carry on this family fued or you can try to take the high road and make it right so you and your kids can all enjoy "family".
Its really up to you.
Dodger
Posted: Sun Oct 19, 2008 3:01 am
by pecos
Originally posted by Dodger:
Well Song alot of this largely depends on the actual "falling out". Was any of this your fault did you overstep some boundries or was it the other side that did that? I mean if you were having such a bad falling out with that sister why on earth would you expect that she would include you in a very special day of thier lives. Maybe she was worried that there would be a scene and she didnt want that for her daughter.
Most times invitations come out way ahead of the event at that time did you try to make ammends with that sister and family? Did you make an effort to put things right so that your families could be together and happy?
I think saying your never going to talk to that sister again for this is kind of stupid. It took two sides to create this argument and its up to both to make it right. If its important to you than you will if its not then you wont and it wont matter to you.
It sounds to me that your obviously affected by this and hurt......so that would make me think you DO want to make it right. You can continue to hold grudges and carry on this family fued or you can try to take the high road and make it right so you and your kids can all enjoy "family".
Its really up to you.
Dodger
Sure, a lot of it was my fault. A lot of it was their fault. My sister will never forgive me. She hates my wife. Like I said, the fault goes around.
My brothers have threatened my life several times. They picked things up to cause physcial harm to me. Yet, I still invited them to my wedding.
My sister is a hateful person, much worse than I am. I have been the only one who was willing at admit any wrong over t he years. Everyone else seems to think they are faultless.
And there is NO NEED to suggest that my feelings are STUPID!!