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Posted: Mon Oct 06, 2008 1:08 pm
by CG822
I hate it how even the littlest thing that someone says can set you back for days..why is that? I hate it.
Posted: Mon Oct 06, 2008 1:26 pm
by desiderada
I know but its because we allow it. Sometimes the people who make a comment dont mean anything by it but then we suffer. Sometimes people say mean things because they are mean or JEALOUS. So what is the point of letting something someone says to ruin our day or week? One thing I do is to make up my mind to forgive them asap for their trespass against me. Jesus prayed "forgive them for they know not what they do" Well most people probably dont know what they are doing! One day I prayed that to God and said (for my own sake) "Father forgive them for they know not what they do" then added "BECAUSE THEY ARE SO STUPID!!!!" Then I had to take it back.
Posted: Mon Oct 06, 2008 2:09 pm
by Guest
I hate when people make comments that make me feel bad, no matter if they mean it or not. My step-mom has had that control over me since I was 6 years old. She is the main person who still has hold over me and why I get so anxious over confronting people who hurt me. I know what it's like.
We do have to step back and remember, they may not mean it or, even if they do, they have thier own issues and may need more help than we realize. It is something that goes through my mind when I have to deal with people like that.
I really love the idea of praying for their ignorance or their issues. It makes me feel as if there is more control over the situation and turn it into a positive.
Good luck and keep at it - we are all in the same place for a reason - we'll get through it together. Thanks for sharing. -J
Posted: Mon Oct 06, 2008 4:33 pm
by Guest
then there are the things that people don't say which I find worse
Posted: Mon Oct 06, 2008 4:54 pm
by spun2tite
I know what you mean. Why can't people be honest. Not saying anything makes it worse. how do I know that it wasn't me that did something wrong. But here is were you have to be considerate of other people and the demons that deal with on a daily basis. Walk a mile in another mans shoes.
Posted: Mon Oct 06, 2008 5:59 pm
by Guest
Thanks guys!!! I do forgive this guy. The funny thing is he was a complete stranger who just happend to want to speak about my personal anxieties. Its not really his fault, He didnt know me (but as a person with anxiety u know how we are, we made ourselves think thay maybe, just somehow, he found out..LOL) So I think I was being tested by God.
Posted: Mon Oct 06, 2008 6:36 pm
by Guest
Hello!! Yes I think the best thing to handle this things is to try to have skills and that we have to analize those things for what the are, try not to be anxious about it, and remember we are great persons and always try to do our best even if something sometimes be a lttle wrong. Maybe the person who say a plump thing to you just didn't mean anything or even be jelous at you. This things are getting better to when you feel better from anxiety because then i'm trusting myself better and I'm not allowed myself to feel sad about those things. Take care!! Wich evryone here a nice day

Posted: Tue Oct 07, 2008 2:51 pm
by Guest
CG822 I have always felt it's not what people say that's important it's how you let them affect you.
You've been doing so well, I'm interested in how you got a handle on your OCD which is my biggest problem
Posted: Tue Oct 07, 2008 3:02 pm
by Guest
When the thoughts come into my head, I just think "I dont care" and I tuck in way into the back of my head. (this is the best way for me to describe it)
I'm learning to come to reality. But its the little things that take me 10 steps back. LEts me know I have not mastered it yet.
Posted: Tue Oct 07, 2008 3:21 pm
by Guest
CG822,
I hated it too.
It's not what they say, for the most part.
We all have been there. Many times. Me too, and I would let myself be offended or angry or upset, whatever, for a few hours or days.
BUT----
We can take the nastiest comment on the face of the earth and learn to NOT let it ruin our day, week, whatever.
AND we can learn not to obsessively scrutinize what other people say, particularly when it has the potential to be offensive. And sometimes because it's just a stupid comment.
That's just one of the things so awesome about this program; Learning to "shake things off" when that's all the attention "it" deserves and learning to UNDER react to things we have spent a lifetime learning to overreact to.
Just as Otama stated, somewhat modified "...It's how we let them affect us"
It's our reaction. How we chose to react. And yes we can change how we react. It just takes practice.
It's freedom from all the frustration.
hugs