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Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2008 2:02 am
by sunshineneeder
Im starting the program but have this strong desire to start smoking, im having so much anxiety about the tapes since my family wont accept the tapes, I desperatly need their approval but they will NOT give it to me. Why can people closest to you who live with you deny the need for help??????
Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2008 2:09 am
by Guest
Hey, Sunshine,
Try REALLY hard to not start smoking again. Just put it out of your head. Decide right here and now that you won't and lessen your anxiety right now. Just doing that will help. You don't need cigarettes, they just ELEVATE your blood pressure. No relaxation in that!
Also, I don't know where you are in the program, but don't wait for anybody elses approval. We're the ones that have to learn to give ourselves permission, support, etc... Lucinda covers that in Session 3, how we're always looking outside of ourselves for positive feedback, acceptance, etc...
I have been on the program for 4 weeks and I feel truly magical again for the first time in 8 months.
Do this. It works for me so far. AND, if you're looking for acceptance, try to find it in yourself, but you can also come here and post. We're all with you and understand to some extent.
Goooooooood Luck!!!!
Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2008 4:21 am
by Guest
Sunshine,
You dont need anyones approval to get better!
You just need to be willing to do the program, for YOU!!!
They dont have to accept the tapes, its not for THEM! they are for you, to help YOU, to be a BETTER YOU! Many times family dont understand, heck most of the time the general public doesnt understand,,, so this is YOUR journey!!! Be excited about it! Dont let anyone stand in your way of overcoming anxiety!!! You have the encouargement of everyone here.. Most of us have been where you are now!
Its worth your time and effort, to be FREE!!! REgardless who approves or doesnt! Nelly:)
Posted: Thu Feb 28, 2008 5:40 am
by Guest
Sunshine,
Everyone here is right. You don't need their approval. My parents have been denying the fact that I have this all my life. They frowned upon my taking antidepressants, going to counceling, and now this. They see it as a sign of weakness. They think they can fix me with their "shoulds." But that is a part of my anxiety, it seems they are always trying to fix me. Why don't they just accept me as I am? Flaws and all? I realized that my anxiety level raises when they are around. It's very sad but sometimes the people who are supposed to be there for us aren't. It's an "expectation" we have. Let it go. They are not going to change and it is not going to benefit you to resist. That which we resist persists. Do this for you, get your approval from within and from this website, and heal yourself. We are all in this together! PM if you need to talk more.