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I can't decide whether to tell my best mate about my anxiety or not. I am pressurising myself to go out for his birthday when the week before my parents are away which caused me a major panic attack in June. All this is causing great anxiety.

He is the sort of person that thinks that people get depressed because they are weak. I wonder whether its best to e-mail or text him but worry that he might not respond and when I see him on Sunday it will be awkward. I couldn't imagine talking to him face to face.

I think he is going to ask his girlfriend to marry him and then he will want to go away for a weekend to celebrate and its not something I could do right now.

What do you think? Should I tell him to take the monkey off my back or should I just keep trying to get better so there isn't a need to tell him.

Sometimes you can just accept that a hurdle is too high at the moment. I believe in the truth. You don't have to give him a life history lesson, just say this particular day/week isn't a good one for plans. Tell him you have too many things going on. You don't have to tell him those things are your anxiety.

Originally posted by crrjlh:


He is the sort of person that thinks that people get depressed because they are weak.
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crrjlh:

Ouch. Yes, I'd have to agree with Pecos on this one. If this friend has this sort of outlook on people with depression, don't give him ANY chance to judge you or express what you are obviously thinking would turn out to be a negative and quite personal response.

Gentleness~

Shelby