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My anxiety goes up then down..then up then down!!!

I was so good all yesterday, then I got to work and i was having a conversation with someone and they brought up somehting that gave me anxiety and BAM...all night I had it! why???!!!! rined my whole night and Im not pleasant to work with..

I'm ready to move out of my house, Ive been here my whole life, Ill be 25 next week. i feel unhappy and unfulfilled here and I need to get out!!! I feel i belong somewhere else right now...myemotions are wack, I just wanna scream and cry as soon as the anxiety comes...

Is moving going to be good for me? Im not running from anything, and I know that anxiety and depression will follow, but Im trying my best to maintain it...ugh I need some answers!!!

You were there for me, so I hope I can be of help to you. Are you living on your own currently or with your parents? I lived with my parents until I was 25 and then got married and moved into a house with my husband. I never got to live on my own and get to know me and enjoy my interests. It has been a regret of mine. The program however recommends that you do not make any major changes in your life until you have completed it. Our emotional state is so unstable, we don't want to make hasty decisions. I would say, stay put for now, finish the program, what is another 2-3 months when you have lived there 24 years, and then, when you are in a sound place, re-evaluate your situation and what you need to be the new you. You will make the right decision, but not right now.

Thanks! Yes, I planned on finishing it before i moved. I live at home, with my mom! Ive been here my whole life, this is all I know! Im ready to get out on my own!! I wanna get the anxiety under control first!!

i just hate the up and down emotions!

Hello!
You didn't say whether you are living in your parent's home. But you ssid you've lived there your whole life. So I presume that is the case.
If so, it is absolutely perfectly normal to want to be on your own. And if this is the case, I believe that your stress would be much less.
The people in my family moved on much earlier than that.

I, too, have always gotten upset when uncomfortable conversations with people took place. And I carry the discomfort of it around with me. I guess I will always be working on that one. So I can't offer any solutions to that problem. But I can say that I understand and I do sincerely hope that resolves itself for you.
In my opinion there is nothing wrong with wanting your own place. I think it is quite healthy really.
Wishing you peace of mind. And hope it all works out just right for you.
MaryJane

The ups and downs or so normal. Yesterday, as you know, I was a basket case, today, I have my positive outlook back. Think of it this way, you will be 25, that means, it took you 25 years to become who you are today, logically, it is going to take longer than a few weeks to change that, right? As for moms, I hear you. My mom suffers from anxiety, depression, OCD, you name it. I believe I am the way I am partially because of her. She was very difficult to live with and is still difficult to interact with even over the phone now. You have to learn to not let other people's words, actions, moods, etc. effect you. Remember the motto, be more effective and less effected. That doesn't mean to not care, but to realize they are who they are and you are who you are, if the two do not mesh, that is fine. Be content with who you are. We can't change others, but we can change ourselves. Good luck and hang in there.

Sometimes our anxiety is really trying to tell us something. I read your statement, I feel I belong somewhere else right now and I thought, you just answered yourself. There is always some degree of anxiety at doing things we haven't done before. I left home to travel the world when I was 17, and then went on to college. I'm sure I had anxiety, but I interpreted those feelings as being exciting. I wonder if some of your feelings are actually more excitement at getting out on your own than anxiety? Excitement is a good thing, right?

I agree Pecos...I feel that I should do this!! But I am afraid to leave my home! my mom and frieds!!! But I know I have to get over the fear and do it and I know they will all be here supporting me! But where I want to move, more of my family will be there too! So I wont be alone. Im just trying to fully grow up!! I feel someof my anxiety will be relieved if I move, there is negative energy around me that has built up over the years.

I think Cornflower is right in that wanting your own place is quite healthy and it is perfectly normal to want to be on your own. I felt this way at about the age of 21 and although my mother and I got along very well I needed to go out and start my own life. My move was pretty extreme - I packed two suitcases, called my sister in Calif., and got on a plane. (I was in Penn. at the time). I started my life here with $100.00 to my name. When I think back it probably would have been better if I had at least made a plan and thought it out a little. Had I had this program at that time I probably would have. It turned out well though and have had no regrets. I would suggest completing the program and keep focused on how to get where you want to go. Keep your goal in mind and try not to let the anxiety totally influence your decisions. Very difficult I know but it is possible. Use the relaxation tape as much as possible.

You guys are great! Thank u!! Getting your life started is so hard!! Im just trying to make the best decisions for myself

Hello all.

CG, I moved away from the confines of home at 25 (I am now 33) where I lived in Buffalo, NY, all the way out to Los Angeles, CA.

Like pecos, I never did anything so big before, and it was something that I always told myself that I wanted to do. I was way excited.

Questions: would you be living close to home, or moving across the country like me? would you be pursuing other goals at the same time (school, etc)? If needed, would you family allow you back if, worse came to worse, you were not ready or something?

If you are closer to home, why can't your friends/family visit you and vice versa? And if you get a cool apartment/home, you might meet a whole new group of friends.

But don't think that I am blowing you off or making this an easy decision...as I think, like Lucinda, that INDEPENDENCE was such a big factor in my life and such a stressor (how will I take care of myself? pay the rent? eat? What if i fail, etc, etc, etc), that only now, 8 years AFTER having moved from home and working on this program can I say I am coming to terms with these questions.

And let me tell you, I made tons of mistakes along the way.