Stress Center Peer Support

Hi everyone. I am hoping there is help here for me. I have had PA's for many years now but have not had one in a few years. My husband (49) died suddenly 5 months ago of a heart attack. He woke up at 2am and only lived for about 10 mins and collapsed and died. I performed CPR for about 20 mins waiting on the EMT's to arrive but I knew he was gone. This has been such a nightmare for me. My PA's are back with a venegence and I am so afraid that I am going to die of a heart attack also. My heart pounds so hard I'm afraid it is going to explode. I have not been to a doctor for this but am in a grief support group which has helped some. If anyone has any suggestions I would really appreciate the help right now. Thank you all so much.

Hi medgrl,

I can say I know what you are feeling. I lost my first husband at a young age too. I felt lousy all the way around after it happened. I was only 24 years old when I lost him. I went through a number of bad situations before it happened, and my depression and anxiety were high. Without getting into all the details, it was a very bad time in my life that I would sooner forget. However, life doesn't work that way.
What you have to remember is that not all people are built the same. Just because it happened to him, doesn't mean it will happen to you. You can take steps to keep yourself healthy. Exercise, eat well, try to keep your social circles going. Ask youself...what would he want me to do now? The answer is simple. Enjoy your life, don't stress about what you don't know. Live each day as fully as you can, then no matter what happens, you have no regrets. You can't control what happens to you but you CAN take steps to try to prevent the bad things. Hold on to the good. Live in comfort knowing that you are doing the best you can in all that you do from here on out. I know that attitude is half the battle, and that is hard to believe now... but I've been there. I know things will turn around, the anxiety and PA's will subside when you know you are doing all you can to live a full healthy life. Let the people that love you help you and spend time with them. The comfort from them will change your whole world for the better.
I wish you all the best, and hope things get better for you.
Nikki

Nikki, thank you so much for the words of comfort. They have helped very much. I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. This has got to be the hardest thing I have ever been through and I am sure it was for you. Again thank you.

Medgrl -- I am so happy that you found this place, because we can offer you comfort and support. I cannot imagine how difficult your situation must be. And of course your are anxious. You went through something exceedingly traumatic. But, you are going to come out the other side.

Personally I would get the program and I would find a therapist that you can work with. Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome is common in people who go through such events and you might need some one on one help.

Just know that you are not alone. You now have 100's of people spread out all over the country that are going to be praying for you, supporting you and understanding you. We are here.

Please feel free to send me private messages if you ever just need to talk. Join in on the chats when you need to. You are going to get through this.

Much love
lilsis

medgrl, yes dear one you will get through this. Use the relaxation tape every day if you have it. If you don't have the program, please get it. I'm so sorry for your loss and will keep you in prayer. Keep coming here and in chat for encouragement and help.

So sorry for your loss medgrl. I have lost loved ones because of sudden heart attacks and it did make me nervous that I would have one too. If you can, go to the doctor for a check up for reassurance and remember anxiety does make the heart race. I wish you the best.

I want to thank each and every one who replied to my post. I really appreciate all the advice and care that you have shown........Pam

Dear Pam
I'm so very sorry to hear about your loss. I too have suffered a loss recently. I had a baby boy 2 months ago, he was full term but stillborn. My anxiety has returned also, but we need to remember for good reason. It's normal to have these feelings after something so traumatic. If you do not have the program please do get it. I have been thru the program once and do not feel I would be dealing as well as I am if it were not for the program and ofcourse God. The program is wonderful and I am so very thankful for it. I am starting it again and it is helping me. I have been reading a wonderful book by Joel Osteen Become a Better You. It is so positive and I strongly recommend it. I wish you the very best. If you ever just need a friend to chat with feel free to send me a private email and we can email back and forth. It makes it so nice that we can talk to others that do understand.
Your Friend
Angla

Pam,

I am so sorry to hear about your lost. I too lost my husband, he was 45 to a heart attack. What got me through it was Family and my faith in God. We were married for 23 years. From someone who has been through it believe me when I say you will get through it Just make sure you take time for yourself and surround yourself with positive people and Family Good Luck