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I'm not sure if I am depressed or just tired of trying. I have been feeling this for 2 yrs now and something has got to give. I have wished that my husband would just commit me so that I would not have to deal with things, and then I would wish that I would have a terminal illness. I use to be a strong positive person, but now I feel worn down and negative. My husband would tell me that I am a strong person, and I would get angry because I am tired of being strong. We have been through so much and it just keeps continuing. I feel that if I leave him things would be better for me, but I love him so much and I'm afraid that he might have another heart attack.

Things have been rough for about 6 yrs now but I started having problems 2 1/2 yrs ago when we moved to another state where his brother lives. His brother has made empty promises and has allowed his wife to cause a separation between the two families. She is jealous and insecure and afraid that the kids will want to be with me all the time, even though she does not do anything with them. I have tryed so may times to open the lines of communication between her and I for the sake of the kids and the two brothers. She knows what she is doing but makes no attempts to bring our families together. Our relationship use to be fine until we moved here, I think she feels like I have invaded her territory.

I am very family oriented person and this has affected me so much that I feel so alone.

I'm not a dr. but that sure sounds like depression to me. I'm sorry you are going through all of these things *big hugs* Do you have the program?

I should be receiving any day now. I'm just now sure that this is what I need. I just feel like I am just letting this one person make me feel this way. I know the saying that you can't anyone but yourself, but she is distroying this family, even my mother and father-in-law feels this way. She has caused so many problems between her step children and their mother. My brother-in-law does not see it and thinks that everyone owes her an apolioge. I'm am to the point that I am blaming him for enabling her to destroy this family. He use to listen to his brother but now he will not especially when it comes to her. If it was anyone else I could deal with it, but she is part of the family and that is something that I have to deal with daily. How is it that one person can affect your life so much.

I know what you are going through. I felt this way a lot before the program...different people with different situations. I do think this program will help. It helped me see the situation in a different light. What it boiled down to, for me, was that I felt I needed to be in and correct every situation. Trying to take on everyone's problems as if they were my own...whether they directly affected me or not. I know it sucks that this person is tearing a part the family, but it is ultimately her issue. She has to want to change and see what she is doing. You've probably done all you can to try and fix the situation...and unfortunately a lot of times that just isn't enough. It is like constantly talking to a smoker telling them they need to quit...they have to want to first...you know?

I really do wish you the best of luck in this situation. I hope she sees the light sooner than later. Keep us updated with this and when you get the program. I'd love to see how you make out

I keep postong, but never seem to get on . see if it works this time

Wow I made itIve had episodes of anxiety disease b/4 but was able to get over them in a fairly short time. But then I had my Hubby to help me though the rough times. Now he is no linger with us, so I. still grieving{I guess] after 2/12 yrs. I have the program and I think I'm getting better but still rely on meds. Klonapin and mirtazapine. why do we all want so badly to get off meds. and yet I know I can't get along without them.I pray for all the hurting people on this forum.god Bless you and hope we all get better soon with His help erna

Hi. I think you are suffering from situational anxiety and are just plain tired of dealing with your sister in law. It sounds so frustrating, but don't let HER affect you. Isolate her as much as possible and realize that she's not going to change, nor will her husband see her for what she is. Hang in there with your husband. Talk to him honestly and frequently. Being committed or having a terminal illness would just bring relief by removing you from this stressful situation. But you don't need either of those. You can remove yourself from the situation. Find something you can focus your energies on when those thoughts come to mind. Don't give those thoughts the time of day. Cast them out and relieve yourself of the pressures. Good luck and God bless. Bev