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SO me and my boyfriend are going to my parent's house in Rhode Island (we live in California) for a little more than a week in the first week of june. I have lived in california for about 3 years so Ive had several visits home. Well every time I go home I have all these expectations of how this is going to be "the perfect vacation, everyone is going to be happy to see me, my family is going to see how great I am and treat me great." well honestly it never worked out that way (except once). Im bringing my boyfriend home for the second time the first time he went with us I had a few meltdowns it was horrible. I just want this time to be better , not perfect. I want to keep my expectations low but also want my boyfriend to have fun. Im really excited but Im getting this growing feeling that Im going to try to micro manage everything do too much and be disappointed. Please give me any advice that could keep me from ruining my vacation with these high expectations. any advice would be great! Thanks!

Hi Jocie22, my only advice is to realize that there is no perfect vacation, party, or anything.

It sounds like you feel a little like I used to and felt like everyone was watching. If you take the time to look around while you're there you'll see that everyone is pretty wrapped up in their own little worlds and you're really not under the microscope.

If I were you I'd just try to stay "laid back" and deal with things as they come. Stay in the moment and don't try to plan everything in advance. Get a little "selfish" and don't worry about what everyone else thinks. Just try to have fun and relax. Good luck to ya.

I agree with Chuck, great advice indeed.