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My boyfriend and I keep having blazing rows in the car together. We went on a 2 hour drive to Wales the other day and I just didn't feel safe. I know I have anxiety but I do think that it's not just in my head. I never used to be scared in the car but now I am and it's getting to me!

When we are on the motorway and we are talking, he uses his hand to describe stuff so that he only has one on the wheel. At 80mph this makes me nervous!! So I nicely said "please put both hands on the wheel" and he did for little while but kept like scratching his face and fixing his hair and stuff and it made me nervous.

Also, he doesnt brake properly. If the car in front brakes, it takes him a couple of seconds to brake.. and although we don't get REALLY close to the car in front.. fastly approaching the car and then braking sharply really scares me and makes my chest hurt for ages. I ended up screaming and he said it made him jump and makes it more dangerous and basically we ended up flipping at each other a lot of times.

Then, yesterday he went to jump a red light .. I screamed "no dont do that!!!!" and he flipped out saying I shoudlnt scream down his ear and that it was on amber s

I know he isnt a bad driver but he scares me. It's like I really feel the speed of the car and stuff. It's causing a lot of rows and now he is refusing to drive with me in the car ...

I'm also flying to Italy on my own this monrht and I'm terrified about that cause I don;t wanna die on my own in a plane. I'm so scared about it.. x

Honestly he doesn't sound like a very safe driver. I drive with one hand all the time but the other stuff sounds like he's impatient and you're wasting more gas slamming on the brakes and such. Can you drive or are you still able to ride with other people? Is he aware of your problems? It sounds like you may need to re-examine your relationship.

He does know about my anxiety but I guess he is just confident of his ability so thinks nothing will happen and im just being silly. He is just a really really laid back person. I can drive but we would like to share the driving. I can drive with other people but do get kinda nervous. I skidded on oil about 6 months ago and did two 360 degree turns and ended up facing the wrong way on the road. This has made me scared of bends and also of braking. Is this normal?

Besos, I have been in similar situations and yes that is very normal. Even people without anxiety would be fearful after that.