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Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2008 4:24 pm
by Gale D
I've been trying to work session5-without much success.I feel like I've fallen back into my deep depression have been crying,don't feel like doing anything,not even interested in eating.I seem to have started slipping back since my husband relapsed-he's alcoholic.I also lost my mother to Alzheimer's Disease 17 months ago and I'm grieving and crying for her again. I feel so sad and so alone-sometimes I wonder why I'm here. I know I have so much to be thankful for and I feel guilty for even feeling this way.I just don't know how to snap out of this.
Posted: Fri Oct 24, 2008 2:49 am
by Guest
Losing a parent can be really traumatic. The grief for me when my mom died was unbearable at times. I never thought I would get thru it but I did. Grief counseling helps quite a bit. I also was treated for PTS (post traumatic stress) since I had to make decisions at the end for her. I feel for you on this because I know what you're going thru. I hope you are considering some kind of counseling not only for your grief, but also for help on dealing with your husband's relapse. I've been there also.
Posted: Fri Oct 24, 2008 4:12 am
by Guest
Mary,thank you so much for your kind,caring words. I really needed to know that someone cares and you did that for me. I have tried counseling -twice in the last 28 years for my anxiety and depression.The first time I went for a year to an LCSW who was affliated with my family Dr. I was given absolutely nothing ;no antidepressant,no anti-anxiety medication-I just struggled on my own until I finally felt better. Then about 10 years ago,I went to another psychologistwho came highly recommended and all he could do was tell me to get out of my marriage-that by staying in I was enabling my husband to continue drinking.His "advice" only increased my anxiety to the point that I knew I had to stop seeing this guy,which I did.Since then I have had little faith in counseling though I admit at times I've thought about trying it again,but when I think back to my last counseling experience I quickly dismiss the thought.That is what made me finally decide to order the program after thinking about it for more than 5 years. As for grief counseling,I was offered it through our local hospice program.My mother spent the last 7 days of her life in a hospice unit here with me by her side as I had done throughout her life.When the bereavement counselor called me about a week after my my mom's death I couldn't even talk,I could do nothing but cry and I told her I just couldn't talk about it. She was very understanding and told me just to call if I wanted to talk. I never did-just couldn't stand the thoght of losing it in front of someone. So here I am trying to help myself and I think this is the only way for me to feel better.You can't know how much your words have meant to me-I think I am ready to get going again for what it's worth. Thanks again and God bless you!
Posted: Fri Oct 24, 2008 5:16 am
by Guest
Dear Gale,
I will encourage you to go to grief counseling. I have learnrd over the last 25 years that things do not "just go away with time". You will recover SO MUCH quicker with counseling & this program. Try to deal with one thing at a time, and when you do this, you will find the other things lessening also. I will look forward to hearing about your progress
Noola
Posted: Sun Oct 26, 2008 5:27 am
by Guest
Hi Noola,
I"ve tried twice to respond to your kind words but each time I was told something about the "body" of the message not being "right". I have no idea what that means-I've only learned to use a computer about 6 weeks ago now so I'm learning as I go. Anyway I deeply appreciate yor suggestions and your insights and am thinking about attending a grief support group If I can. In any case, your caring and concern meant a lot. Take care and God bless you.
Posted: Fri Oct 31, 2008 3:29 pm
by Guest
Hi Gale,
It's been a week already since we "spoke". Are you feeling better about using the computer?
Noola
Posted: Fri Oct 31, 2008 6:03 pm
by Guest
Hi Noola! It's good to hear from you.
I'm getting a little more comfortable with the computer but I have a lot to learn.I've been to the chatroom a few times but it's hard for me to keep up-slow typing and trying to focus on everyone at once I'm not too good at it yet.Hopefully with time I'll improve.Everyone has been incredibly nice and I really feel like I have a great new group of sensitive, understanding friends.What a great feeling! Thanks so much for your concern. I hope you are OK too. Take care and we'll talk again soon if you like.