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Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 5:47 am
by judy1456
Hello,
This is my first time on the peer support group. I've been listening to the cd's...knowing I need help...but not making the committment to working on changing my behavior.
Last night I attended a church conference and saw a guy I had dated with another woman. I thought I was over him, but today I'm falling apart again....can't think, crying, worried about everything. I'm looking for support or encouragement.
I was widowed 13 years ago and can't seem to find the right guy....I havent' dated much in the past 5 years. I've taken meds in the past for Depression and anxiety but have not been on any meds since January 15th. I met SR last September and we started dating. It was great for a while and lasted 4 months. I ended things a couple times and we got back to together. But, we stopped seeing each other in January. He was not the right guy for me, too self centered plus several other issues that told me he wasn't the right person. It was wonderful for a while but now my heart is aching, I'm lonely and sad.
I don't want to take meds again but the way I feel today makes me think that's what I will need if I can't stop feeling so overwhelmingly sad all the time. I know this is a reaction to several stresses in my life right now...i.e. Starting a new job on Monday, out of town visitors coming today, plus seeing SR for the first time since January 12th.
What can I do besides take an anti- anxiety pill that will make me sleepy?
Thanks for reading.
Judy
Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 7:23 am
by Guest
Judy, For one thing, you can come on here and talk it out as you just have. You can also go to online chat and use general chat or help chat. There will always be someone there for you. Do you have the program? If so, use the relaxation CD. When your company is there excuse yourself to the bathrm and do the deep breathing. I will be praying for you with your company and your new job. Rejoice about the job trusting God thru everything including the relationship that ended. Don't look back. Stay in the present. This is my problem too. I either am looking back or too far ahead and miss the precious present. After all that's a present that God gives each day. We need to rejoice!! Also something that I think would be a great help to you is to come on the Wed. nite conf. prayer. It's no charge. You dial an 800# and then a passcode. Go to the forums in the spiritual section for the number. It's l0pm eastern and 9pm central. Hope to see you there.SOMETHING GOOD IS GOING TO HAPPEN TO YOU!!
Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 8:21 am
by Guest
Barb, Thanks for your wise words and support...I will login to the prayer group. God Bless you this day!
Judy
Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 8:48 am
by Ms. Hopeful
judy,
what will help you alot is ask GOD for his guidence and his help in going through this problem that you had yesterday. ask HIM to bring someone into your life...after you get the new job..start off by paying your tithes..10% is not alot to have to give back...it willmake things start on a positive note and see what you get back .. planting a seed and watch it grow and the harvest is such a blessing..barb is in the same prayer group that she told you about..
you can do it and we will be here to help you as well as the program. get the skills and tools that you need to go on your journey..you will be surprised what it will do and where you will go. take care and GOD BLESS..hope to talk to you wednesday night at 10 p.m.
DON
Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 9:12 am
by Mary65
Judy,
I went through something simular to it my husbands ex fiance was in church one Sunday morning and I had a panic attack to where I had to get out of there at the time. I went down stairs to the bathroom and there was a girl that had been crying and I told her to have a blessed day and she looked at me and smiled and said "yes you to and God bless". I have had anxiety only for a few years but something like seeing my ex's or anything has set mine off. We all go through these same things. God allows things to happen to us sometimes that we don't understand but I joined the prayer group last wed. and it was so wonderful! See if I hadn't had anxiety to begin with then I would have never been able to meet all these wonderful people. I hope to hear from you on Wed as well as everyone else. God bless you and when the time is right you will find the right one, sometimes that person isn't ready just yet for a relationship so don't get anxious just know that God is going to send you someone great all you have to do is ask! God bless you!
Jennifier
Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 10:29 am
by Guest
Judy,
It's hard enough to see the ex to begin with but to see him with someone else well that can be absolutely heartwrenching. My ex has hooked up with someone else and actually had the nerve to ask me for some advice with his new relationship. Long story short, I thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown. I kept it together when I was talking to him but after he left I had the biggest cry, began to shake, and just couldn't concentrate on anything. I literally let it ruin my whole day. So I went back to lesson 4 and reviewed the material and I realized something. If something makes me feel that bad then by all means get rid of it. It was a constant struggle, but I knew that I had to rid my mind and my life of him. It isn't easy and there are some days when I wake up longing for him, but I just go back to that day and say to myself why the heck would you want to be with anyone who made you feel like that? As Garth put it, "some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers."
Posted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 11:11 am
by Guest
Judy,
I believe time heals almost all wounds. It certainsly has healed some of my heartaches with males. One of the most important things I have learned from taking this course is I am the cause of my own anxiety. I say this because when I was dating, the thoughts associated with the loss (of the boyfriend) reminded me of the loss of my father and created anxiety for me. I believe the thoughts that create anxiety can come from many conscious and unconscious sources. Do you know what I mean? Pinpoint what is really bothering you and be nice to yourself.
Posted: Mon Mar 10, 2008 12:34 am
by Guest
Hello,
Thank you for all of your words of encouragement! I attended a new church yesterday. It was wonderful! the message was on Luke 6:29-35 Love your enemies....
Question: Where can I find the 800 number for the prayer conference on Wednesday night?
It is great to have this medium for support...Thank you all!
Judy
