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So I happened to login to my girlfriends myspace account and find a message from her friend. Saying that she is dating another guy! And cheating having sex etcc with the guy. I've been with this girl for a year. And this has been going on 1-2 months and I just now found out. It's brought on a ton of panic and chest discomfort along with other signs of anxiety. I hope nobody here ever has to feel that kinda pain because nobody deserves it. And it's not good for people with anxiety either. I can't even sleep, If I fall asleep I find myself jolting back awake in like a minute or two. It's very hard to deal with

I know how you feel.My fiance of 8 years cheated on me last summer. You just haft to learn to let it go. You gotta think it's really not worth going through all the anxiety is it? I hope this helps.

DOHC,

I am soo sorry to hear of your situation. I can relate, my fiance had a wife and another fiance as well!!! the pain was so intense that I couldn't breathe. By the grace of God I managed (and still managing) to get my life back in order from that whole ordeal.

It is extremely painful, especially for those of us who have anxiety. But you will get through this, you are strong and capable and this too shall pass

Please take care of yourself, and remember nothing is worth your health!

Misty

I empathize with your situation. However, she is really "cheating on herself." Many times when it happens to us the person that "cheats" seems like the person that has power over us. In reality it is just the opposite.

Wishing you the best!

DOHC,

I am so sorry this has happened to you. It hurts very badly. Here is the thing, though. It sounds to me like you had little trust in this girl to begin with. If you are logging into her myspace, you were obviously suspicious. People who trust their partners, don't go behind their backs like that to do sneaking. I don't blame you, I don't. I don't know anything about your relationship and it may not have been a healthy one, but in most cases, people do snooping like that with reason and they are usually in denial that their partners are betraying them.

This is going to sound harsh, but I am glad you found those messages and that bit of information. Now you can move on and find somebody who wants to be with you and only you, and there is someone out there for you who does. There is this thing about dating... you weed through the bad ones and you LEARN and gain experience, experience that you can take to your next relationship. It's how you get to a better one, a relationship that is good and healthy and full of love and trust. I don't know much about you, maybe you have a hard time trusting people, but I hope this experience and maybe past experiences don't turn you away from trusting the next girl. She may just be the one for you.

Hunny, this is how you learn and grow. I am so sorry you are hurting, but this is not a terrible thing, in the long run, it's good for you to find this out so you can move on and be with someone who deserves to be with you. I am sure you are a great person who has a lot to offer your partner.

About the sleeping situation, don't worry about it. You will sleep when you sleep, you need to not put so much pressure on it. Allow yourself to grieve and hurt! You are feeling sad and betrayed right now. Of course you are going to have a hard time sleeping, that is only normal. But remember, you'll sleep when you fall asleep and you will. Don't worry about it.

Hi DOHC! I'm terribly sorry about your heart-break! I know just how it feels to be cheated on, lied to, and hurt. You are correct, it's devastating, but along with already existing anxiety, it's hell. As difficult as it seems to believe at this point, you will heal from the heart-break, and remember (though it's difficult right now), to be kind to yourself, telling yourself, "it wasn't meant to be, and a true love is waiting out there for me", and at the right time you will find her and be happy. You will look back on this one day as a lesson, and through every lesson in life, we learn something new. It's also better to find out now, than if you had of married her, then to find out, it would be extra traumatic. Post anytime, we are here for you, and believe me, the hurt will pass, the pain will subside, and you will heal. Keep doing the program, and nurture yourself. Let us know how it's going. Take good care!

Beth

The one who loves you would never make you cry, and the one who makes you cry, is not worth your tears.

I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. I once went through heart break when I found out my first love was cheating on me. I understand your pain. Looking back on it now, I was glad I found out sooner rather than later. It's a terrible thing to go through when you are already suffering from anxiety, so I feel for you. Hang in there, things will get better.

I understand the sleeping problems also, I am going through that now. Just as I fall asleep, my body wants to wake back up also. If I do fall asleep, I have problems staying asleep.