How to forget the past?
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I feel for you. I cannot imagine the anxiety and guilt this has caused you. I leave my children in the car often to run into the dry cleaners of post office, for only a few minutes at a time. I am well aware of the dangers and my children are not infants, nor do I do it when it's hot or very cold outside. I too am not a big fan of cops. My mother, who is 78 years old was arrested by a cop about 3 years ago because she weaved when she pulled into a parking lot. She too suffers from anxiety and depression and is a very nervous person. He made her do a field test (imagine a 75 year old woman in broad daylight). He arrested her although she passed the breathalizer and (later the blood alcohol test) because she could not passt the field test. She is shaky and nervous, remember, this is a 78 year old woman we are talking about here! She was terrified and mortified. My dad had to go pick her up, he said the police officer was totaly out of line. He called her quote "a pill pusher". My mother takes anti-depressants and blood pressure meds. That's it! Needless to say, her drivers license was taken away for a time and she had to get a doctors note to re-apply for it. She was terrified to drive after that and hasn't driven since. Her depression got much worse after that and about a year later she suffered a major breakdown and was hospitalized for it. It was very traumatic. The good news is, she's on different meds now, sees a wonderful therapist that I helped her find and she is doing fantastic. She put it behind her. Had I have had more time and my own wits about me (I was going through post-partum anxiety and depression at the time) I would have hired an atty myself and pressed charges against the officer. I urged my Dad to do so, and he said when he looked into it he found out the officer was no longer on the force. Thank God! Please, at the very least, go to the station and file a formal complaint against the officer. I used to date a cop (I'm ashamed to say sometimes) and they actually do take formal complaints very seriously. This is inexcusable and I completely agree with everyone that the cops seem to pick on the WRONG people! I too am afraid of them and it should NOT be that way!!!!
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Guest
Tammy,
Yes social services is difficult to understand! My brother in Law called SS because a student in his class had not taken a bath in who knows how long, and told my BIL that there was no food in the house and they had no electricity. Children's services did not investigate. I'm so sorry for your friend! They are certainly not helping her situation at all!
Congrats on your engagement!!
It been interesting because I had posted my story online months ago to see if anyone had ever heard of a similar situation. Many people responded that I should be in jail, ect. That is why part of me took the plea bargain, I thought that maybe they would take me to jail!
My brother was the victim of an attempted kidnapping when he was 8 years old (guy tried to lure him in his car and actually opened his car door and started to get out. My brother ran and was OK. My parents did not FREAK out and did let him walk to school. Had they freaked out, he may not be the confident, educated, self assured man that he is today. I know how scary it is to live in fear and I do my best not to let my kids know when I am panicking even when I flew for the first time, lol!
Take care!
Yes social services is difficult to understand! My brother in Law called SS because a student in his class had not taken a bath in who knows how long, and told my BIL that there was no food in the house and they had no electricity. Children's services did not investigate. I'm so sorry for your friend! They are certainly not helping her situation at all!
Congrats on your engagement!!
It been interesting because I had posted my story online months ago to see if anyone had ever heard of a similar situation. Many people responded that I should be in jail, ect. That is why part of me took the plea bargain, I thought that maybe they would take me to jail!
My brother was the victim of an attempted kidnapping when he was 8 years old (guy tried to lure him in his car and actually opened his car door and started to get out. My brother ran and was OK. My parents did not FREAK out and did let him walk to school. Had they freaked out, he may not be the confident, educated, self assured man that he is today. I know how scary it is to live in fear and I do my best not to let my kids know when I am panicking even when I flew for the first time, lol!
Take care!
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Bean Counter,
Thanks for replying! Are you in the Stress too? Please be careful leaving your kids (not because of serious danger, but because of busy bodies). I would surmise that a person could be arrested for leaving a kid up until the age of 14 in a car in my area, I think that's when you can leave them at home. I was babysitting babies when I was 12 years old, my sister was 10 when she was babysitting a 4 month old!
That is horrible about your mother! My grandmother is almost 80 and she is also very nervous, takes ativan. I'm glad the officer is no longer there! My grandmother would have been mortified. I can't believe that he called her a 'pill pusher'! Most middle aged people take more scripts than her!! And whose business is it anyway? Not the cops!
I'm so glad that she is doing better! I guess I wish that I didn't have a "record" Anytime a cop is behind me I start wondering if they are running my plates and will pull me over, "just in case" I was doing something illegal.
After this happened, we seriously considered leaving the country. My husband telecommuntes anyhow, so he can work anywhere that there is internet.
take care!
Thanks for replying! Are you in the Stress too? Please be careful leaving your kids (not because of serious danger, but because of busy bodies). I would surmise that a person could be arrested for leaving a kid up until the age of 14 in a car in my area, I think that's when you can leave them at home. I was babysitting babies when I was 12 years old, my sister was 10 when she was babysitting a 4 month old!
That is horrible about your mother! My grandmother is almost 80 and she is also very nervous, takes ativan. I'm glad the officer is no longer there! My grandmother would have been mortified. I can't believe that he called her a 'pill pusher'! Most middle aged people take more scripts than her!! And whose business is it anyway? Not the cops!
I'm so glad that she is doing better! I guess I wish that I didn't have a "record" Anytime a cop is behind me I start wondering if they are running my plates and will pull me over, "just in case" I was doing something illegal.
After this happened, we seriously considered leaving the country. My husband telecommuntes anyhow, so he can work anywhere that there is internet.
take care!