Been crying for about....10 hours now

jchick · Post by **jchick** » Wed Aug 27, 2008 2:48 am

Dena....

You hang in there today....stay focused on who you are and what you have as goals for yourself.....it might be a nerve-wracking day....but you can get through it....please keep us all posted about how the day goes, OK? Your success will be an encouragement to me...to us all....

Take Care,
JChick

DMP720 · Post by **DMP720** » Wed Aug 27, 2008 7:46 am

Thank you everyone for all of your kind words thoughts and prayers! I got through yesterday okay! Yes of course I was nervous, but I did it! I actually got called off my training for today so my next real full day is next week tuesdday! so I get a whole weekend of fun and sun...hopefully sun..its michigan so who knows.

Back to the job...it was packed....crazy..loud..but I actually had a lot of fun. I just need to be able to go to the back to the bathroom haha..I held it in until I left bc I didnt want to go to the back of the school to use the bathroom..haha..sounds stupid but I still have a hard time with inclosed spaces and no way to get out...any advice for
how to deal with that??
Thanks again!!
<3

NinjaFrodo · Post by **NinjaFrodo** » Wed Aug 27, 2008 7:58 am

Hey Listen to what you are saying...you've been exercising hardcore for the past 2 months and eating super super super healthy and trying and trying and trying...So what if you gained a bit more weight (i can't tell if it is exercise or what not)...You are trying and you should be proud of yourself for that. You're taking the steps to making yourself feel better

As for the new job...its really normal to feel nervous about any change in life...you gatta learn a new routine...a new set up habits and maybe you won't get it down pat the first attempt you make or even the 10th but thats ok too...Do infants get walking the first attempt they make?

Let me ask you a question...what gives you the right to say bad stuff about yourself? What horrible things have you done that you need to be punished for? Did you commit any crime or intentionally try to hurt another person?

Mike

irish89 · Post by **irish89** » Wed Aug 27, 2008 9:42 am

DMP720:

Listen to yourself: "I have a hard time with enclosed spaces and no way to get out". You do have a way to get out, the same way you got in: the door. I am not criticizing as when I am anxious or panicky enclosed spaces get to me. But when I walk in one I often say things like the following:
1. what do I really think is going to happen?
2. are the walls moving and getting closer? HA! No.
3. Is it getting hard to breathe? After a few calming easy breaths, I prove air is there.
4. Is the door suddenly locked? Well, no, I just came through it.
5. Then I kind of take a look around the room and just take it all in....it is just a room. Why would a window or a wide open wall to the outside make it any less safe or different than it is now?

When I take that approach, I'm usually able to do what I need to do in the enclosed room. Sometimes I don't have to do this and sometimes I do, but I think the theory is the more I can face it and talk my way through it, that over time the less I will need to do so. Practice this in your bathroom at home and over time, the bathroom at work will just be another room.

DMP720 · Post by **DMP720** » Fri Aug 29, 2008 10:55 am

Ninjafrodo: Thank you for your understanding! I've read a lot of your post replys and you always know the right thing to say and they are right from your heart! Thanks from me and all the other people you helped

Irish89:You're right it is just a room...most of the time I can tell myself that...I think its more of the fear of what people will think of me if I freak out..ya know? Its that perfectionist thing that I hate people to see me screw up...blah

NinjaFrodo · Post by **NinjaFrodo** » Fri Aug 29, 2008 1:37 pm

Wow I'm flattered by your response. I'm glad that I can help to make you feel better and everyone else too! I'm also suprised that you've read some of my previous replys...I'm blushing over here.

MIke