How do you deal with flippancy/changing mind drastically?

Maeggie · Post by **Maeggie** » Tue Feb 05, 2008 3:21 am

Hi Everyone,

Can anyone relate to being a very 'flippy' person, I mean one week you feel like you dont like your spouse but the next you feel like you dont want to be without them? or, you want to change jobs one day and then are happy the next? even changing your feelings/mind daily? I personally deal with major flippancy in all areas of my life, it makes the anxiety and ocd worse for sure but I dont know how to change this but my feelings for everything even my cats change drastically each day!

how do you deal with these feelings?

AMANDAJ · Post by **AMANDAJ** » Tue Feb 05, 2008 4:02 am

I get that way too. For me, it is either getting bored with the job or depressed with it, which are similar. We have to keep finding ways to appreciate what we have and really think about do we want the job or not. With husband, they are human and make mistakes and as long as they are mostly supportive and caring then they are keepers.

AmandaJ

Maeggie · Post by **Maeggie** » Tue Feb 05, 2008 4:35 am

Hi Amanda

Thanks for the response.. perhaps I wasnt bold enough- the feelings/thoughts I get are soo intense I almost have to follow each one. they arent minor doubts or indecisiveness these are unwaivering, bold, intense feelings but contradict eachother daily

maybe that'll make more sense for relation?

Atlanta Mom · Post by **Atlanta Mom** » Tue Feb 05, 2008 4:57 am

My issue is that I am so opinionated that there is no gray area. So one day I hate my job b/c one little thing aggravated me. The next day, I will be in a good mood and something good will happen at work and then I can't imagine leaving. I always try to wait for several days to a week to make major decisions, otherwise I know I might really wind up hurting myself in the end. People with anxiety generally are perfectionists, not just with themselves, but others. So, when I get mad at my husband, I try to remember his good qualities and that I married him for a reason so that I don't say or do something hurtful to him. He accuses me constantly of "bitching" and I know I do this. I try to be cognizant of it, though so that I don't jeopardize my relationship due to my own issues.