A few weeks ago a coworker yelled in my face/accused me of things I did not do, and I was caught so off guard that I completely froze and did not say anything back, and actually cried afterward. I was so disappointed in myself for not standing up to him and I kept replaying that scene in my head over and over again.
Finally, I realized one day that he reminded me of a piece of broccoli. His body is like the stem and is hair is very much like the tree, or top. Once I realized that, I replayed the scene replacing him with a piece of broccoli. It then became very amusing to picture a vegetable being upset with you. This sounds dumb, but it really worked for me so I thought I'd share ...try visualizing!
Visualization :)
No, that does not sound silly.
Your first reaction sounds very normal to me. We always have hind-sight and wish we had thought of this or that. We learn as we go.
Give yourself credit for coming up with the broccoli visual. By the way, saying nothing when someone is angry is very effective in shutting them down. Pat yourself on the back.
Sounds like your co-worker could use the program to help him with anger.
Good job.
Your first reaction sounds very normal to me. We always have hind-sight and wish we had thought of this or that. We learn as we go.
Give yourself credit for coming up with the broccoli visual. By the way, saying nothing when someone is angry is very effective in shutting them down. Pat yourself on the back.
Sounds like your co-worker could use the program to help him with anger.
Good job.