I spent hours on the phone speaking positive energy into my sister & mother. After handing up feeling drained and being strong for them, I got all negative. I got my book out and wrote, and changed some of my thinking. My Mike moment, I pulled out of the skid and driving on a dirt road sorta slow, but going forward! ( I did not wreck!)My sister is doing better, and she is getting things where before she did not. My mom feels pain for my sister and she is older and can't understand. I think she don't know what to do so she worries. I have been struggling with not increasing my smoking. I went 3 over yesterday and back on track today. Then changing this format!
My sister worked at a job for 21 years. She was a material planner. She dealt with parts to make medical equipment for a large corp. in Ohio. She has a boss who they never got along ( he has been there 10 years ). She would do so much better by going thorough this program, but never has. She is sensitive, like most of us, and low self esteem. He was her challenge. She could not emotionally get there. They hired a new girl about 6 months ago who did not seam very qualified to do her job. Her boss liked the new girl, and stuck up for her, praised her everything he never did for her. She also was brought in for more money! (The tension was building) So my sister had some issues with fairness. ( understandably! ) She got really busy and noticed this girl just sitting there and she gave her a stack of papers to sign , initialize. She went to the boss, to ask him about it, and it was like one of the biggest boo boos ever! So he charged her with trying to get this girl fired! After 21 years no problems ever, they fired her. It seamed like the punishment did not fit the crime. She did not want to set this girl up to be fired, she wanted help and no one was jumping in. It shocked her and frustrated her as she had no voice, no write up, no chance to defend herself, it was your gone! No unemployment, ( she is going to try,) and no reference for 21 years of your life! I think she will find another job as so many people worked with her loved her, and many were dept. heads in other areas of the company. I have a feeling she will be better off in a year but its just working through it. Very draining for me.
I realized why I was turning so negative was because all MY sources of joy, calm, energy givers were shut down due to the cold. My aches and pains made me grumpy and I could see how I started to just have many negative thoughts. I took a hot bath, read my book, wrote things down, relaxed and I do feel more quiet, relaxed. I too bought a movie and plan on watching tomorrow night. Something up lifting!
With my smoking, I notice when I begin to stress I reach for it. Don't even know, just like the cupboard and my cups. I am not being rational. When I get the chance to make a decision to lite up I can choose to pass or to continue. When I get stressed I don't even think. Just react. This is new awareness for me. I guess this must be a trigger. I am working at when I start loosing my reality to have a Mike Moment and think! Do the questions, they do pull you out of it. So yey!
Thanks Mike, that really is true.The best way you can influence people is by living life the best way you can and showing that your way of living is very pleasurable and causes less pain.
Oh and I did use your methods to work through my funk. I know I'm not great at it yet but I did come up with enough questions to keep me from being obsessed and negative.
Forever,
I'm sure you will feel some relief as the days pass by. Its hard, thats why I got more dogs. I missed the guard dog being around. I live on a 5 acre farm and I rely on my dogs to bark. People would stop in and sneak up on me, scaring me! I would be in the barn and someone would be at my house door. I also spend many hours a day alone, and what better company than man best friend! Its not for everyone, but I'm past the point where I can't not have one!