Stress Center Peer Support

Hello evferyone I have not written in a long time, i have been doing amazing because of the program. But i am having very hard time in my life. Besides having the landlord from hell and dealing with money problems. My sister is a addict and she is getting worse and worse. We dropped her off at a rehab last wednsday and she signed herself out Tuesday and the next day we had her in the emegency room crisis center. It is really tearing us a part and and i am afraid everyday waking up to that phone call. But i have been nothing but nice and supportive and now she is lashing out on everyone blaming everyone but herself. And we are just dumb founded but today ( i am the youngest of 10) she started bringing up stuff from my Dads life over 45 years ago and this is the first i had heard of these things they dont effect me i just know the life I know. But now i am paranoid and thinking that everyone is keeping secerts and I keep on obsessing on the things she said. I am starting to think I will go crazy from everything going on i feel so lost and i have been doing so good i dont want to go back please help if you can Thanks God bless

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Please don't feel alone, you sound exactly like I'm feeling. (read family problems-suzzie). Just keep telling yourself that this is your sisters problem, NOT yours. All you can do is be there for her and let her know how much you love her. But for you, do anything you can to comfort and calm yourself down. I'm sitting here trying to do just that. Believe me, its hard, but you know what? We are so lucky for StressCenter giving us the opportunity to share with each other. I hope I've helped a little. Take care. suzzie

Hi Helen, Try to go back to the Session on being less affected and more effective. I'm sorry to hear you are going through such turmoil right now, but you can move through this. You don't have to go backward. Keep your thoughts on the progress you have made, and use the tools of the program. No matter what your sister has told you about the past, as you said, "you know the life you know." Stay in the present moment. As we have learned we can't change the past, but we can control how react to the present. Your circumstances are tough, but you are strong and you will not go crazy.

Keep focusing on what's good in your life. There is always good. You can support your sister, but you cannot change her. Her recovery is up to her.

God is holding you close right now, please try to believe in that and trust Him the most right now while you are going through this. He will bring you out of your pain.

I'll be praying for you.

God Bless You, Donna