Stress Center Peer Support

I'm new to this computer thing. So bare with me.....I'm not new to this program though. I did this program 12 years ago and it worked great. I got my life back! Problem is my anxiety came back 2 months ago. I know why it came back, just not sure how to go about getting over it this time. I'm on week 6 about anger. This is my question.....my husband of 16 years admitted to me 8 months ago that he had a 2 year long affair on me. I don't know how to stop feeling angry and sad about this. He developed anxiety and panic 2 months before telling me. He also had a suicide attempt because he was so depressed and felt like he had to tell me but that I probably would leave. We have 5 sons and a very busy life. While my husband was "going through it" I took care of him and the boys. Then to find out that he was "sick" because of what he did to me, just about broke me in half. I was able to keep myself together for 6 months, but now I'm a panicky, depressed, anxious mess. I have chosen to stay and try to work this out. He was a wonderful husband for most of our marriage.(another reason this shocked me)Anyway I just finished listening to lesson 6. How does a person stop being angry when there is a real issue? I'm trying to forgive, but in the mean time this is hard to deal with anxiety, panic, 5 boys, and a broken heart. If anyone has been through this or has a thought please respond.

I am a 2nd timer like you. Did this program 12 years ago. Worked great for me then. Looking forward to seeing how this plays out as I begin the process all over again. Like you, I have anger issuses that I must either let go of or learn how to manage. As of now, the best thought shared with me is to "Let go and let God" into my heart. Like I said, I am just beginning this process all over again. I will let you know around week 12 if this good advice worked for me. I once wore the shoes you now fill, when I found out that my now ex betrayed the trust and friendship couples share. The only positive outcome of that relationship was that she got the busines and the house and I got the 5 children. Hang in there and look for the love that will over shadow the trust issues that you now must face. You sound determined to heal yourself of this painful admission of your spouse. Allow your determination to direct the healing you seek. Give the anger away and let the peace you desire take its place.

I recommend doing the program again, yes.

I am no therapist but you have every right to be angry. Anxiety, depression and panic keep you from really feeling that anger. Is there a professional that you and your husband can go see? Someone who can help you work through these feelings because you need to feel them. He does as well. It may be helpful to go through these feelings with someone you can trust. This will better help you to make decisions that may need to be made for you and your family.

Thank you both for responding. WhyteHorsyou are right I do need to "let go and let God"! (so hard for an angry person)I'm sorry you were ever in this situation. I don't wish this on my worst enemy! Boon....I do need to seek out a therapist because I'm not handling this well. And your right I'm having all these problem instead of feeling what I should be.Thanks again

Thank you both for your advice! WhyteHorse you are right I do need to "let go and let God" I'm so sorry you were ever in this situation. I don't wish this on my worse enemy. Boon....you bring up an interesting point that the anxiety is keeping me from feeling the anger. I do need to talk to a therapist about all this. Thanks again