loved to talk to someone who can relate
Posted: Thu Jan 12, 2012 1:00 am
you know how Lucinda talks about blowing the good things you do out of proportion rather than the negative stuff...today has been quite a trial run for me in that area. seems like when i would do something, i would feel like i didn't do it well enough cause i didn't do everything i wanted. for example, if i was assertive with someone, i would think "you didn't push hard enough for what you wanted. you didn't do it" and i would beat down on myself.
you see, being assertive is one of the hard areas for me.
then i would realize what i was doing. i was discouraging myself by not seeing what i did accomplish to say, and then would feel discouraged thinking about where i felt i came up short. this discouragement makes it seem harder to keep trying. so, i would turn my thoughts around and focus on what i did accomplish that i wanted to, and let myself know i was proud and what i did and it was a good job. definitely made me feel better.
but what i am wondering...i would like to keep in touch with someone else who is going through trying to break through walls, like being more assertive, and dealing with working on that as well as working on dealing with the negative thoughts. it is so true that i give myself the help i need and i am proud of what i have done, but i think it would make things better to have someone to talk to that can relate. even someone who has gone through this and can be a source of inspiration and encouragement would be welcome.
thanks
you see, being assertive is one of the hard areas for me.
then i would realize what i was doing. i was discouraging myself by not seeing what i did accomplish to say, and then would feel discouraged thinking about where i felt i came up short. this discouragement makes it seem harder to keep trying. so, i would turn my thoughts around and focus on what i did accomplish that i wanted to, and let myself know i was proud and what i did and it was a good job. definitely made me feel better.
but what i am wondering...i would like to keep in touch with someone else who is going through trying to break through walls, like being more assertive, and dealing with working on that as well as working on dealing with the negative thoughts. it is so true that i give myself the help i need and i am proud of what i have done, but i think it would make things better to have someone to talk to that can relate. even someone who has gone through this and can be a source of inspiration and encouragement would be welcome.
thanks