Husband withdrawing

[gidge980]

I went through the program several times over the course of three years, and I've seen tremendous positive results. I've changed in many positive ways. However, for the past 6 months I have seen negative changes in my husband to the point where now I am convinced he is depressed. His symptoms that I can see include irritability, negativity, pessimism, fits of rage over little things, disinterest in physical intimacy - including little 'good morning' kisses, fatigue, sudden dislike of job, expression of unhappiness, and lack of enjoyment of activities he used to enjoy. When I started to notice a withdrawal on his part from our relationship, I questioned him. Several times we've had these discussions. I finally suggested that he might be depressed, based on his descriptions to me of how he was feeling - guilt, wanting to be alone all the time, thoughts of death (but not suicide), lack of interest in our marriage, he brushed it off, then freaked out, and finally I have gotten him to agree to go see a professional therapist (I offered the CDs to this program several times and got no response). Recently he tells me our relationship has been a "trainwreck" and he doesn't know where it's going. That has me worried. Has anyone else that has gone through the program experienced something like this?

[Paisleegreen]

Well, sound like he could be reacting to the "new" you, but he does sound like he could be depressed or suffer from GAD as well.