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I am staring a new job on Monday and my aniexty has been building with each day I get closer to it. I took the new job, because it's with the government and they say they have a better work life balance then I had before. I don't know why I am getting anxious, but the same negative thoughts haunt me. I am not smart enough for this job, I will embarss myself, I am overweight and look terrible. I feel like I just want to curl up in a box and stay there forever. However, I know I have to fight these fears and get through it. Anyone have similar issues and if so any suggestions on how to cope with them?

Hi there John1969...

Is there a box big enough for you, me and everyone else who's felt the same way that you're feeling right now (and we've all pretty much felt the same way at some time or other)??....No box?...good, then lets do away with the box and do instead what you've said..."Fight these fears and get through it!!"

Its normal to feel anxiety before and even during a new job; everyone feels some sort of anxiety and worry over this so you are not alone!!

One of the things that would help me if I were in your situation is accept the anxiety, ride it out and recognize that this is normal when starting a new job.

Also, your negative self-talk is adding fuel to your anxiety....I realize that this is something we all struggle with but it is possible to lessen your anxiety a little by replacing some of your negative self-talk with positive self-talk...Here are a few things that I whole-heartedly believe are true for you or anyone else to say to yourself:

I am a loving, genuine person

I am deserving of respect

I am deserving of happiness

I am working on leading a healthier lifestyle

I love and care about myself

I am an intelligent and unique person and have much to offer

I control my emotions and feelings

I control my moods and mindset

No one validates me! I need no validation from anyone!! I validate myself and I love it!!


Say these things and other positive things that you know of to yourself...and say it out loud! Say it out loud on your drive to work as well...When you say it out loud, you hear your own voice saying these things and you'll believe in it more because it is TRUE!!

As for you're not being smart enough for the job, did someone else fill out your application, do the jobs that are listed on your resume and go through the interview w/ HR in your place??......NO, IT WAS ALL YOU!! So keep on keepin' on, hold your head high and never forget that you can do it!!

Best wishes to you!!

Thanks Energy. I know you're right. I just need to change around my negative thinking and roll with the aniexty.

Hey John...

Just checking to see how the new job is working out for you...hope the new job is going good...

keep us posted...keep us posted and best wishes!!

Hi john i know how you feel i am starting a new job in 1 week, something i am good at a nurse i took a year off to work in veterinary medicine with people who i thought were my friends and it ended up being terrible, they were mean and spiteful people who took and took, i lost alot of confidence in myself and diminished self essteem. I feel that i don't have what it takes to go back to nursing, but i am working on that.I don't feel smart enough, i feel i have to be friends with everyone and liked, that was a step made, it is amazing the power of self esteem. keep your chin up bet the job is great and your do ing a great job at it.