Any other transgenders working the program?
Hi lisafoxx:
Well, I just looked up "transgender" on the Internet and I was amazed by all of the definations !
The only information I know about being a transgender is what I have seen on television. It seems like a very difficult transition and that some people go back and forth from female to male until they decide which is the right one for them. I hope that your therapy is successful and that you can, in the very near future, decide what is best for you.
Session Three: " I am worthy of inner peace".
Later. Lynda
Well, I just looked up "transgender" on the Internet and I was amazed by all of the definations !
The only information I know about being a transgender is what I have seen on television. It seems like a very difficult transition and that some people go back and forth from female to male until they decide which is the right one for them. I hope that your therapy is successful and that you can, in the very near future, decide what is best for you.
Session Three: " I am worthy of inner peace".
Later. Lynda
That was sooo sweet of you to spend time to look up transgender and respond. You must be a very caring person.
You're right, there are many variations of transgender. For me, I have the best of both worlds. I have traits of both sexes and prefer to be blind to definitions, I go with the flow. I spend more of my time en femme, but enjoy my male side as well. It makes it tough in many ways to not choose one or the other, but it makes me more comfortable this way. My therapist is great and so non judgmental. She is helping me tremendously.
Thanks for taking the time to respond. God bless, Lisa
You're right, there are many variations of transgender. For me, I have the best of both worlds. I have traits of both sexes and prefer to be blind to definitions, I go with the flow. I spend more of my time en femme, but enjoy my male side as well. It makes it tough in many ways to not choose one or the other, but it makes me more comfortable this way. My therapist is great and so non judgmental. She is helping me tremendously.
Thanks for taking the time to respond. God bless, Lisa
Nugget28 - Why are you afraid of coming out?
I'm not gay, but I tried having a relationship with a women for several months. I was attracted to her and wanted to see what it was like, but the whole time she felt more like a close friend and I always felt like something was missing for me. Anyway, my family was mortified to say the least and it bothered me a little. More so because I thought they should be supportive instead of judgmental. I kind of brushed it off like, you know what? It's THEIR problem. It makes them uncomfortable because they have issues with it. Personally I thought it was pretty healthy of me to admit my attraction and see if there was anything to it. Just as it would be for you to free yourself of the opinions of others and be true to yourself! Remember lesson 3? Lucinda says it doesn't matter who you are or what you do, not everybody is going to like you or apporive of your decisions anyway, so why not be your real self? I think you would find that all sorts of new people would enter your life.
I'm not gay, but I tried having a relationship with a women for several months. I was attracted to her and wanted to see what it was like, but the whole time she felt more like a close friend and I always felt like something was missing for me. Anyway, my family was mortified to say the least and it bothered me a little. More so because I thought they should be supportive instead of judgmental. I kind of brushed it off like, you know what? It's THEIR problem. It makes them uncomfortable because they have issues with it. Personally I thought it was pretty healthy of me to admit my attraction and see if there was anything to it. Just as it would be for you to free yourself of the opinions of others and be true to yourself! Remember lesson 3? Lucinda says it doesn't matter who you are or what you do, not everybody is going to like you or apporive of your decisions anyway, so why not be your real self? I think you would find that all sorts of new people would enter your life.
What a great answer! I'm Liz (was originally lisafoxx, but Liz fits me much better)
You are absolutely right, people should be accepting not judgemental. When one judges, they are only using their own value system anyway, and who says they are perfect?
Today, I spent the whole day as Liz, and you know what? EVERYBODY treated me with kindness and respect - from my landlady to the girl at the convenience store to the guy who fixed my computer. If only I knew this years ago but I was too busy condemning myself. So all I can say is be yourself and people will love you for who you are, and if they don't that's their problem. Liz
You are absolutely right, people should be accepting not judgemental. When one judges, they are only using their own value system anyway, and who says they are perfect?
Today, I spent the whole day as Liz, and you know what? EVERYBODY treated me with kindness and respect - from my landlady to the girl at the convenience store to the guy who fixed my computer. If only I knew this years ago but I was too busy condemning myself. So all I can say is be yourself and people will love you for who you are, and if they don't that's their problem. Liz
Karmatisme,
To answer your question. The reason used to be that I was so afraid what everybody would think of me and how they would react.
But now I'm starting to care less what everyone thinks. Right now I just feel like I don't have someone in real life that understands what I am going through and would have my back in case my family would react really bad. I'm working on getting to know some gay people but its not going as fast as I would like.
To answer your question. The reason used to be that I was so afraid what everybody would think of me and how they would react.
But now I'm starting to care less what everyone thinks. Right now I just feel like I don't have someone in real life that understands what I am going through and would have my back in case my family would react really bad. I'm working on getting to know some gay people but its not going as fast as I would like.
I'm with you, Nugget. Why does everyone want us to conform to their desires? I did for years and it caused so much anxiety and confusion. Session 4 really did wonders for me as I have always expected so much of myself and of others. I have come to the realization that others will most likely let me down because their values, goals and priorities are not mine. And mine are not theirs, so I'll let them down. Life's too short to let these things cause anxiety, depression, whatever. I'm so relaxed right now, dressed and being Liz, watching football bowl games. Life is good.