Stress Center Peer Support

Hi....I have these dreams sometimes which actually pre-warn me that the following day will be a trying one......one filled with tears or some sort of confrontation etc. and when I woke up this morning....I had experienced that kind of dream.

I was fine first thing and feeling good about my progress with this disorder and then it started happening.....tears over one thing or another during the day and what really hurt was what I found on my computer e mail.

One of my daughters sent me a very critical e mail .....just when I have been going through therapy, this program, a support group etc etc
and getting positive things happening a big blow to my heart.

Although it hurt sooooo much I kept reminding myself that I am a good person....that my parenting was the best that I knew how to parent and that I can't control how others feel but that I am able to control myself.

It hurts like heck to get criticism from one's children especially when one is in the process of trying to heal but thank goodness for the support through this program.

This too shall pass.

thanks for listening!
Mariasue

I hate to recall the things my daughter said to me in the last few years, but I stood my ground,at least in front of her. There were lots of tears behind the scenes.
She has come around an I'm the first one to call when she needs a friend.
Write an honest email back to her that's positive, saying you are on the road to recovery and that each day is brighter, etc, etc. Fill it with positive hopeful thoughts. Let her know you love her and will always be there for her. Then let her absorb it a while. All kids go through something of this sort, but most come back around. PM me if you ever need to talk.

So sorry you are having these hurts. We never know what is in another person's closet full of issues. What is true, and I think I recall Lucinda saying this somewhere, is that so many of those issues aren't even real. They are the things a person thinks/thought, which is/are not always equal to the factual events. Thoughts equal feelings, but that doesn't make them physically real. I hope you keep healing here.