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So today I decided that keeping track of how many people i call at work wasn't going to be good enough to make me feel good or learn anything from so i decided that I was going to keep track of all the positive people and all the negative people. It made me realize something...there are many people that I talk to that are nice people but I didn't really understand what made a negative person. My perception of negative people and dangerous people seems to be very distorted.

Way back in the past, Any person who would say no to me or not listen to my problems or help me out...that person was a negative person...and for sure anybody who deliberately tried to hurt me was a negative person...those negative people were also dangerous people. I've gotten better since then and now it is just the people who aren't happy are the dangerous ones. I feel afraid when I start talking to someone who talks more slowly and deeply, I get intimidated by them and I feel like they're going to make fun of me or try hurting me. That isn't really realistic either though.

So what exactly is a dangerous and/or negative person anyways? What is a realistic idea of one of these people?


Mike

To me, a negative person is someone who is always complaining about something, that person always has bad gossip about someone else. When Im talking to that person I feel just as gloomy as they sound. They always have some kind of ailment to talk about but is doing nothing to help themselves. If I say "the weather's nice", they'll say "but I think it's gonna rain".

I think the dangerous ones are the negative people who encourage you to feel negative, and when you come to them with a problem, they don't encourage you and try to help you work through your delimma, they just want to hear of your troubles because they get off on the gossip. They don't help you to grow as a person. They are also the ones who gossip about you behind your back. With these people, you don't know that you can't trust them. That's why they're dangerous.

deedee00

Wow that used to be who i was about 5 years ago and for most of my teenage life. Cept for the raining part. That is a very good description of a dangerous person by the way...especially the 2nd post.

I had one guy laugh at me at work. I was doing cold calling and with my job we actually pay people for their opinions on the products on the market and he actually didn't believe me. It really didn't make me feel that good after he laughed at me, especially when i'm trying to do my job. Is that a negative person?

Mike

I saw a lot of negativity during the campaign last year, and without getting into politics, to me it was very apparent that a certain group had a ton of negativity and blame over another group.

Also I see a lot of people complaining about their situation and blaming a circumstance outside of themselves.

Another thing I witnessed were some family members whose kids were always in trouble with school, friends, family or the law. Whenever they'd talk to me about their latest "problem" or "issue" it was always the other person's fault, they'd never take responsibility or admit that they were wrong and should have done things differently.

So, I find that negativity happens a lot in "finger-pointing" and not taking responsibility for your own actions and also expecting others to pick up the slack for their lack of planning.

Hi Ninja.

Yes, I think that was negative. He didn't have to respond to you like that. It wasn't like you were lying to him. There's always a way to express how you feel without being rude. He could have come up with one if he tried.

Hello Shifrah.

Did you see the Presidential Inauguration. It was beautiful and very positive. The whole thing was great! I am so proud of president Barack Obama.