Stress Center Peer Support

Hello. I just started the program about a week ago and am finding it really difficult to maintain my relationship with my boyfriend. He is the one who ordered the program for me and yet, I feel like he really does not understand me or what I go through each minute of everyday.
I have anger issues and sometimes I lash out on him (verbally) without really being aware of it. Afterwards, he tells me if I don't change that he will leave me. I understand that he doesn't deserve to be treated that way and I am doing my best to find the roots of this behavior and change it...but I am so stressed out on top of it all and things do not change overnight. Can anyone relate?

No things do not change overnight and he has no idea what you are going thru. Only someone who has this can understand what it is you are going thru. Have you let him listen to the CD Titled I will be there for you? This will help him understand some. You are on the right track by doing this program. And this web sight will help you, because we all understand and are going thru what you are. So please just keep doing your program and visiting here it will get better.

Wow...it sounds like I'm hearing myself in what you say. My boyfriend also ordered my program for me. I too, get so stressed out I feel like I'm gonna lose it. I lash out and ge tso overwhelmingly angry anymore. I've just started my program, but I take comfort in knowing I'm not the only one feeling this way. I hope you do too. I'd love to keep talking as we go through the program. Take care and best of luck!

thank you both for your words of encouragement. It feels so good to have people that truly understand and are so supportive. We did listen to the I will be there for you cd together, but I feel like he only paid attention for a short time and made comments that just made me feel even worse about myself. Yesterday was a real nightmare...I was so emotional and yelled at him for nothing that he did - it is all in my head.
I would love to keep talking, jtater85, too - thank you!!

Hi there Im new here and thought i would contribute. I think most of my anxiety helped create a situation thatmy ex did not understand. Sometimes i feel if I try to explain my feelings they dont understand or I feel like IM complaining. Therefore being negative and not creating a positive outlook. But its so hard to turn off the wheels turning in my head. ON the out side I seem fine but on the inside im beating my self up.. then that can turn too anger after a time.

Just to let you know I just started the program. Now on session #2. Me and my wife watched Iwill be there for you. She finally realized anxiety and panic attacks are not fun to go thru. I t can bring you down so easy. My wife now is going through the program. I didnt realize she was going thru her own anxiety. It looks like everybody does at some level. Do this for yourself. Right now is a scary time.
I believe the pieces will come together. If your like me you have spent a lot of time scaring yourself. Time to spend time working on the positive thoughts. We all can do it.
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