Posted: Mon Aug 23, 2010 3:42 am
I'm glad you aren't dwelling on the lack of thank you. Dwelling only makes us miserable (i'm actually doing dwelling right now...well trying not to).
Thank you, I agree and I do feel good about myself for sticking up for me.
Yeah they really do run out of friends but unless something really big happens to make them realize...they do end up lonely old people. I wouldn't wish that upon anybody. I actually spend time in the morning wishing a brighter future for everybody, including him. It seems to make a huge diffrence in treatment, i'm hoping it will do the same outside of treatment too.
I'm sure you are already on your way to making how you responded a habit. It would be a very good habit!
Oh my god are there ever alot of sufferers. You don't realize it until you end up going through the program. Alot of these people also do not admit to this and act all big and tough. It's a weakness for them. So many of them are on the path to becoming anxious and depressive sufferers too unfortunately. And your right we have taken it waaaaaay too far.
I was actually amazed when you said you did the humor thing automatically. When you use the 6 steps were you adding the humor there too?
The program has done alot for you. I've gotten alot out of the program myself over the last 6 years. Like you I've changed alot of my thoughts, my reactions and i'm more positive and less scared but I just ignored the 6 steps every time i did the program. I thought it was too hard and kept telling myself its not going to help and I can't do it. So I haven't yet reached the same level you have but the lessons are deeply ingrained into my head!
I think it'll most likely be something like the 15th or 20th time. Something like that. I'm comitting to using the 6 steps this time though. That would be cool if we did it at the same time. Each lesson i'm on, I like to post things in that lesson's section on the forums so it would be nice to have someone else in the same place as me.
Lol you used your lesson 2 card that much eh? Ya i lost mine! But yes your right it is great for general anxiety, worry and anger. I'm going to use it anytime i get a strong negative feeling which will be alot right now. I have a couple of friends that are actually starting to drift away and I considered them to be really good friends. I used to see them every weekend last summer but well this time i barely see them and they don't even make time for me anymore. They don't call and I have less contact with them on facebook and msn. I got really upset when I found out they were hanging out with some other people I know plus the guy who i've had such a hard time dealing with. I felt left out, unwanted and unloved. It's making me miserable and so I think now is a very good time I start back with the program again. They haven't completely cut themselves out of my life but are distancing themselves and so I have to look at the reality that they might not be my friends forever and I just got to let go. Let go of my expectations and my dependancy on them as well as the fear of them leaving. Thats a tough thing because I have abandonment issues because of my family abandoning me.
My limitations...well partially socializing (I socialize but I am not comfortable doing it and am afraid to be myself), working (I'm afraid I would not be able to leave if i needed to and i'm afraid i would become exhausted), driving (not like i have a car anyways), public speaking, confrontations and I think thats about it. I've worked on other limitations before and made alot of progress. At one time i was agoraphobic and was terrified of other people, I've also been a smoker before too.
Mike
Thank you, I agree and I do feel good about myself for sticking up for me.
Yeah they really do run out of friends but unless something really big happens to make them realize...they do end up lonely old people. I wouldn't wish that upon anybody. I actually spend time in the morning wishing a brighter future for everybody, including him. It seems to make a huge diffrence in treatment, i'm hoping it will do the same outside of treatment too.
I'm sure you are already on your way to making how you responded a habit. It would be a very good habit!
Oh my god are there ever alot of sufferers. You don't realize it until you end up going through the program. Alot of these people also do not admit to this and act all big and tough. It's a weakness for them. So many of them are on the path to becoming anxious and depressive sufferers too unfortunately. And your right we have taken it waaaaaay too far.
I was actually amazed when you said you did the humor thing automatically. When you use the 6 steps were you adding the humor there too?
The program has done alot for you. I've gotten alot out of the program myself over the last 6 years. Like you I've changed alot of my thoughts, my reactions and i'm more positive and less scared but I just ignored the 6 steps every time i did the program. I thought it was too hard and kept telling myself its not going to help and I can't do it. So I haven't yet reached the same level you have but the lessons are deeply ingrained into my head!
I think it'll most likely be something like the 15th or 20th time. Something like that. I'm comitting to using the 6 steps this time though. That would be cool if we did it at the same time. Each lesson i'm on, I like to post things in that lesson's section on the forums so it would be nice to have someone else in the same place as me.
Lol you used your lesson 2 card that much eh? Ya i lost mine! But yes your right it is great for general anxiety, worry and anger. I'm going to use it anytime i get a strong negative feeling which will be alot right now. I have a couple of friends that are actually starting to drift away and I considered them to be really good friends. I used to see them every weekend last summer but well this time i barely see them and they don't even make time for me anymore. They don't call and I have less contact with them on facebook and msn. I got really upset when I found out they were hanging out with some other people I know plus the guy who i've had such a hard time dealing with. I felt left out, unwanted and unloved. It's making me miserable and so I think now is a very good time I start back with the program again. They haven't completely cut themselves out of my life but are distancing themselves and so I have to look at the reality that they might not be my friends forever and I just got to let go. Let go of my expectations and my dependancy on them as well as the fear of them leaving. Thats a tough thing because I have abandonment issues because of my family abandoning me.
My limitations...well partially socializing (I socialize but I am not comfortable doing it and am afraid to be myself), working (I'm afraid I would not be able to leave if i needed to and i'm afraid i would become exhausted), driving (not like i have a car anyways), public speaking, confrontations and I think thats about it. I've worked on other limitations before and made alot of progress. At one time i was agoraphobic and was terrified of other people, I've also been a smoker before too.
Mike