This is something I actually posted back in 2009 that I thought I would dig up as it is very useful stuff. The information was derived from Tony Robbins's program (I'm not sure which one I did 2 diffrent ones).
Also I found another thread someone else started back in 2009 it is also useful. It involves the questions again but also expectations.So the program teaches us that our thoughts create our feelings and our feelings determine our perception on life so on a theoretical level would changing our thoughts change our perception? How do we change our thoughts?
I've done a few years looking into self help programs, ideas and I wanted to share with you the knowledge I've gained. This I found to be very helpful and I hope it helps you guys out there too. A very good way to change the way we think is through questions. I believe if we ask ourselves questions no matter how big they are, we eventually get the answer to it.
For starters ask yourself this...What positive things do you get out of procastinating doing chores? What things do you get from doing them? What will you feel like afterwards?
You can do this with everything and you can combine this with other theories like the pain-pleasure theory (We motivate ourselves to avoid pain and to get pleasure). For example...What will you lose if you stay stuck? What will you gain? How will it affect your life 2,3,5 years into the future? What will your life be if you made 1 move towards overcoming anxiety? What would your life be if you had gotten over anxiety? What good qualities do you have? What would you achieve if anxiety didn't stand in your way?
What ideas of questions do you guys have that might help others?
Someone else started the thread and the initial post was this;
For some reason I don't think I understand what I'm supposed to be doing this week. Week 3 was clear. I even kept a notebook of negative thoughts. But I'm not sure how to practice limiting expectations. Also, my thing isn't holidays or perfect trips. I don't care about those things. I accept them for what they are. I'm not even sure where my expectations get out of control. I suppose making a list would help. Can someone help me understand how to practice for this session. Thanks.
My response was this;
Making a list would help you out. Think about the things you expect from yourself...do you expect to master something the first time you try it?
do you expect yourself or others to do things perfect?
Do you expect people to react a specific way to a specific situation?
Do you expect people to know how you are feeling?
Do you expect people to always be understanding?
Try asking yourself these questions and ones similar and that'll help you out.
I'm glad all my posts are here from day 1! I made some really awesome discoveries over the years and I have forgotten alot of stuff. I can definately go back and find them again and rediscover them! Its pretty cool!
Mike